Stafford Was Irked By 49er Questions Regarding Parents' Divorce

It was a topic about which we hadn’t heard until listening to the recent interview of 49ers coach Mike Singletary by Ralph Barbieri and Tom Tolbert of KNBR.
During last month’s Scouting Combine, the Niners met with Georgia quarterback Matthew Stafford, and Stafford came away from the meeting a little miffed about how he was treated.
The Niners reportedly had a psychologist at the session, who asked questions about the impact on Stafford of his parents’ divorce.
The incident occurred while Stafford was in high school, and Stafford claims that the psychologist told Stafford that “it sounded like he had ‘unfinished business’ concerning the divorce.”  Stafford responded by saying that “he felt if he should be wondering how much he was being charged by [the] hour for the psychoanalysis.”
In our view, Stafford’s better approach would have been to not whine about the line of questioning to a reporter, but instead to recognize that the 49ers might have been more interested in how he responded to the questions than in what he actually said.
Indeed, Wake Forest linebacker Aaron Curry told us last month that one of the Saints’ coaches was assuming the demeanor of a drill sergeant while questioning prospects at the Combine, barking out questions and telling the players why each answer was wrong before they could finish answeringf.  But Curry laughed about it, realizing that it was one of the tools teams use to see how players handle stressful situations.
Stafford opted to react with frustration, instead of realizing that the team might have wanted to use its very limited time with the players to create an environment that would give the decision-makers a more probing look at the kid’s character than the pre-packaged “here’s-what-to-say-and-how-to-say-it” bullcrap that, for reasons still not clear to us, Stafford’s camp allowed ESPN to record and broadcast earlier this year.
The goal of the interviews is to find a way to get past the facade that agents and consultants have worked so hard to erect.  And, in our view, there’s nothing wrong with doing that.
In our view, Stafford didn’t react well to the situation, and it’s one of the factors that the Niners will have to consider if/when Stafford is still on the board when the 49ers use the tenth overall pick in the draft.
Based on Singletary’s reaction to Stafford’s reaction, our guess is that the 49ers likely would pass on this specific passer.
“If you’re gonna look at drafting a guy in the first round and you’re gonna pay him millions of dollars and asking him about a divorce, about his parents, if that’s gonna be an issue, then you know what?  Maybe he doesn’t belong here,” Singletary told KNBR.
UPDATE:  In fairness to Stafford, his actual comments in the SI article at issue don’t create the impression that he was pissed about the line of questioning.  “I felt like, I wonder how much I’m being charged per hour for this?” Stafford said. “But I understand.  They’re going to pay a lot of money in the first round.”  So why did the Bay Area media get all worked up over this one?  And why wasn’t Singletary prepared to set the record straight in this regard when being interviewed by on KNBR Barbieri, given that Barbieri apparently had been criticizing the team’s handling of the Stafford interview at the Combine?  (And, yeah, we realize that we should have checked the actual comments in the SI article instead of merely relying on the Bay Area media’s characterization of them.)

88 responses to “Stafford Was Irked By 49er Questions Regarding Parents' Divorce

  1. Cannot play with him, cannot coach with him, cannot draft him, cannot ask him any questions that might be difficult to answer, can’t do it!

  2. Stafford must’ve looked at Jay Cutler’s soon to be huge contract and assumed being a big freaking baby was the way to go now.

  3. the 2010 combine will feature teams waterboarding potential draft picks. After all, they need to see how they’ll perform in that situation.
    I hope Stafford lights up the 49ers every chance he gets with whichever team he goes to.

  4. I’m not so sure about that. C’mon, it’s not like Stafford was a young kid and didn’t really understand what was going on in his life at the time of his parents’ divorce. He was in high school, probably the worst time for a kid to have his parents fighting and getting a divorce. Why be shocked that he’d be upset that people ask him about something so personal?

  5. Florio, do you find ways to go after this kid every day?
    You whine like a little bitch with these articles, most of which are pure fiction with your own-admitted fake sources
    Through all of that waste of time was ONE LINE by Stafford which could or couldn’t be a joke by him
    Did he have sex with your wife or something? Maybe bonk one of your kids?

  6. Smart move on Stafford’s part. If the Niners asked me that same question, I would have forced tears and started yelling and screaming like a madman. Anything to avoid getting drafted by them.

  7. Looks like the 49ers are trying to drive down his draft stock, this is fairly obvious isn’t it Florio? Teams do this on a yearly basis, I thought this was fairly obvious but I guess Florio is at the back of the class on this one again.

  8. I think it’s a great idea for teams to do thins like this. These kids have to be able to handle the pressures of playing in the NFL. Who wants to draft the next Ryan Leaf?

  9. Can someone show me where exactly Stafford was irked?
    Is that the only quote we have to go on?
    Florio, did you actually spend more than a few minutes trying to come up with a way to make Stafford look bad?
    What a joke you are

  10. This is why Stafford has bust written all over him. He’s a poor man’s Jay Cutler. Detroit will set their franchise back 3-5 years if they waste the #1 overall on him.

  11. The Niners are just doing there due dillegence, since Stafford complained about it, it just proves that the question was warranted because it obvoisly effects him to some degree.

  12. Stop posting about this kid being a “whiner” … my parents got a divorce while I was in grade school and I had some issues about it, but i’ve gotten over them. The last thing you want to hear from some psychologist is that your head isn’t on straight or you’re mentally fragile … especially when half those psychologists personal experience with stressful situations is limited to information from a textbook and nothing in their own lives. The “damaging the draft stock” theory makes some sense; but I hope the 49ers do pass on this guy if he’s available so they can continue to be the joke of their division.

  13. SmOKE SCREEN –
    49ers WANT HIM – Drive the stock down and he’s there for them.
    if it works smart move – they have nothing to lose…I say good move…and I hope he’s gone by the time the 9ers pick.

  14. Florio is only a labor lawyer when he’s trying to glom onto the NFLPA.
    Other times, he is a water carrier.
    If my employer asked me about my parent’s divorce, I tihnk I’d be pretty pissed off.
    Now Mike, is that a viable question in ANY job interview? Mr. Labor Lawyer?

  15. After Singletary’s behavior last year, maybe the pysch should be asking him questions about his momma.

  16. the problem here isn’t how Stafford answered the question, but that he brought it into the public forum. if I was the Niners, the answering of the question how he did would have little impact on my decision to draft him. going public, on the other hand, is what concerns me.

  17. This is just another situation of Florio blowing things way out of proportion. This happened weeks ago, and Florio is just now hearing about it, so Stafford couldn’t have been that miffed.

  18. They just wanted to see how he would act under stress – He failed!
    They did something like that to me when I was in the Marine Corps and going on a high stress assignment. They sent us all to a psychologist and it went something like this:
    Q: Who do you love more, your mother or father?
    A: I love them both the same.
    Q: You have to pick one, which one?
    A: I can’t because I love them both the same.
    Q: Just pick one.
    A: OK, my mom.
    Q: Why do you love your mom more than your dad?
    A: I don’t, you made me pick one.
    Q: Then why did you pick your mom?
    A: OK then, my dad.
    Q: Why did you change to your dad?
    A: I figured that since I loved them both the same it was his turn. Can you quit trying to mess with my mind and move on to the next topic?

  19. I agree with misterj. It’s one thing for the psychologist to just ask him questions; when the psych starts saying things like “sounds like you have…” blah blah blah, I think that’s crossing the line. I would have felt imposed upon as well, and Stafford had every right to refuse what was essentially an unsolicited diagnosis from somebody he just met five minutes ago. Good for him.

  20. I would have to think it’s his agent’s responsibility to prepare his client who is the potential top draft pick for any potential line of questioning.
    And if Stafford didn’t have the slightest idea that all aspects of his life, past, present and future were going to be under severe scrutany, then the Agent isn’t doing his job.

  21. smart1, you aren’t so smart. A team is not going to publicly make derogatory comments regarding a player they plan on drafting. When team tries to drive down a players draft value they do it quietly using anonymous sources. At this point Stafford would pull an Eli if they drafted him. Just stupid statement on the part of a self proclaimed smart1.

  22. yeah, get him Mike, that pucking fussy! He should go undrafted! I’m a winner in real life, my cheetoes go in my mouth, and my crumbs stay on my chest while in an elevated position watching NFL Network!

  23. no smart in fact i think anyone with half a brain realizes they dont care if he has daddy or mommy issues they just wanted to see how he handles being a little frazzled. and just like the big games, hes not cool under pressure.
    your at the back of the class on this one dude. and im pretty sure your comfortable there as you have probably been there all your life.

  24. ““If you’re gonna look at drafting a guy in the first round and you’re gonna pay him millions of dollars and asking him about a divorce, about his parents, if that’s gonna be an issue, then you know what? Maybe he doesn’t belong here,” Singletary told KNBR.”
    You know what Mr. Singletary? If you think some bullshit pseudo-science crap like that has any impact on the kid’s actual play, you’re a moron. Considering all the problems teams have with high picks getting arrested and doing other stupid crap, I don’t think I’d be worried about whether a kid is affected by his parents’ divorce. It looks like the psychoanalysis isn’t working. I think I’d look more at the police blotter.
    Quite frankly, if I’m Stafford, I’m gonna get my millions from someone. I’d rather it be from a better organization than that. It’s especially funny from a coach whose motivational technique involves a self-depantsing. Let’s have a psychologist run with that one, huh Mr. Singletary?

  25. and the fact that your name is smart1 is hilarious because clearly your not lol.
    but then again would you expect someone to makes up the nickname smart1 to actually be smart?
    you should have been smart enough to figure that out.
    or not. lol.

  26. Real Winners play for the Gators! Sissies go to Georgia. We have Disney World, you have the Buckhead District. Nice Job. Where did you get this guy from? Texas or Knoxville. Winners are born and bred in Florida! Go Gators! Breed a winner!

  27. They may be trying to drive down his stock in the draft. But if the report is true, can you imagine how Stafford would react with Singletary in his face yelling that he needs to man up?

  28. This sounds like a Ryan Leaf answer.
    In other words, wouldn’t touch him with a ten foot poll.
    Seriously, based on that one answer. Too stupid too figure out it was a loaded question, Pass.

  29. Pathetic. I have no problem with tough questions but stay out of peoples family lives. Divorce is hard on the children no matter what the age. Unacceptable.
    There’s a right way and a wrong way to go about tasks like this and Singletary did the wrong thing. Absolutely the wrong thing to do.

  30. Oh and ToTheTop…based on your reply, Id pass on you as well, cause it’s obvious you harbour issues.
    It wasn’t about what was asked, it was about how he reacted.
    Can’t compose himself enough to suck up the silly lil question and give a vanilla answer?
    Riiiiiiight
    Ryan…..Leaf

  31. Bullshit. A divorce always leaves unfinished business for the kids that have to suffer through them.
    They should stay away from that line of questioning, IMO.

  32. The 49ers question was disrespectful. What if Stafford had a kid brother who died of cancer or girlfriend who was raped and murdered? Would Singletary have asked about them too?
    Singletary is NOT and NFL caliber coach. He’s a total joke. And I hope they pass on Stafford and he becomes a Hall of Fame Player. Stick to those losers really good.

  33. Hand hit it RIGHT on the head.
    Teflon during an interview, spew out a response and move on, it’s not that hard to do.

  34. he should of turned around and pulled his trou down and mooned the jerks and walked out. of course he would have some issues with his parents getting divorced while he was a high school student. who the heck wouldn’t? ridiculous florio.

  35. While I have no problem with Stafford’s reaction, anyone who says the Niners have no right to ask because it’s personal is a moron. If you’re going to give a guy millions and millions of dollars guaranteed to lead your franchise, you wouldn’t be doing your job if you didn’t psychoanalyze the crap out of the guy.

  36. who removed my post… you sissy! must have been a hippy from georgia. You want to know why your colors are red, your a commy. Go Gators, and Tebow is a real man… but I know you wouldn’t say that because you’re to worried about pledging your allegiance to the Soviets and Cuba! You fruit loop!

  37. TB says:
    March 25th, 2009 at 11:49 am
    The 49ers question was disrespectful. What if Stafford had a kid brother who died of cancer or girlfriend who was raped and murdered? Would Singletary have asked about them too?
    ————————————————————————–
    Yes they would have asked, and they should have. You don’t draft a guy and pay him tens of millions of dollars without ensuring he’s sound psychologically.

  38. Stafford didn’t like the line of questioning, as he feared it would lead to other questions about his chronic bed-wetting.

  39. singleberry is a hypocrite… he brushes off reporters and respond with agitation when relentlessly drilled about warner… yet, a personal question getting brushed off with humor is seen by him as a weakness or character flaw… what a cow.

  40. Maybe Stafford is smarter than we all think. Perhaps he was trying to look bad in the eyes of the 49ers so they would pick someone else.

  41. inmymind the only thing you have in your mind is a couple of rocks floating around you ignorant twat.

  42. gee! why not ask him how long it took his parents to potty train him. that would be a better gauge of learning ability. let the personal stuff be just that. all that a coach should be concerned about is can the guy play football? i’m sure that on a corner blitz the first thing that comes to mind would be”i wish mommy and daddy didn’t get divorced”

  43. A good scout can see how a quarterback reacts in tough situations by studying game tape. Maybe that’s why the 49ers pick in the top ten every year. They look at everything except how good of a football player he is. Teams with a good talent evaluator can turn a team around in a year or two. I know Jed York is trying to learn on the job. It appears that the rest of the front office is too.

  44. I’m going to start keeping a list called ‘Florio’s Soap Box’ and it will consist of every time I read an article where you get off on a opinionated tangent about a player or his behavior. First on the list is Matt Jones. Second I’ll add Stafford.
    The 49ers have no right to ask him questions about his parents divorce. Leave the kid alone. Besides I wouldn’t want to play for Mike Singletary anyways. He’s a step above Art Shell in knowing what’s going on. He’ll be fired week 10 after taking is pants off on the field or something.

  45. That is a bullshit question. In the real world, that could be considered discrimination. Why not ask him about his grandma dying and how that affected him. How bout when his dog dies or when a girlfrien broke up with him or about how he choked in games at times. Only one of those questions are appropriate. Yeah the NFL is not the real world, but crap happens in life. Even thouhg you might not like it, you deal with it. Plenty of guys have had deaths or seen shot up people and drugs and pregnant girlfriends they left. They deal with it. (Many like it and continue to impregnmate chicks.)

  46. The 49ers are notorious mindf@ckers. Wouldn’t surprise me if they pulled off some new-age Berkeley-fried quackery that drove Charles Haley over the edge, in his book he said that he greatly resented team psychologist Dr. Harry Edwards’ constant efforts to pick and tickle his brain.

  47. Bill Walsh used the same tactics. Funny how no one claimed he did not know how to run a football team. This is nothing new, it is just rare that a player will bomb an interview and then admit to it publicly before he gets drafted. Stafford should of just kept his mouth shut and try to take it out on the Niners on the field.

  48. Hey Florio,
    If someone asked me about my parent’s marriage I would slap them in the face and walk out. What would you do if an interviewer asked about the priest who touched you inappropriately?
    I’ve been reading your stuff since Ricky Williams failed his first drug test in Miami. I have to say that your commentary/collumn is becoming increasingly harder to read as I have to sort through more of your idiotic opinions.

  49. why don’t you worry about keeping your pants on and not making yourself look like an out of touch idiot

  50. 2 points –
    1. Does Singletary ask all the kids who grew up in single parent households and have family member in jail, how they feel about it? I’m going to go out on a limb and say no he doesn’t.
    2. Keep dropping your pants, Singletary, that’s the best way to motivate grown men.

  51. This is not the first bizarre incident connected to Singletary. But the writing on the wall is clear that the 49ers are in a heap of trouble.
    My recommendation for all fantasy football team owners: STAY AWAY FROM ANY AND ALL OFFENSIVE PLAYERS ON THE 49ERS BECAUSE JIMMY RAYE IS THE OFFENSIVE COORDINATOR. UNFORTUNATELY, THIS INCLUDES FRANK GORE.
    Unfortunately, I believe that skilled offensive players are prone to injuries on teams with poor coaching staffs (from poor execution).
    However, Pat Willis will be a great pick in IDP leagues because the 49er’s defense will be on the field most of the time, giving Willis accessive playing time to rack up tackles.

  52. The questioning was questionable, but Stafford made the mistake of going public about it. Now defenses will use it against him.
    For this screw up…Stafford=R. Leaf.

  53. handd: “They just wanted to see how he would act under stress – He failed!
    They did something like that to me when I was in the Marine Corps and going on a high stress assignment. They sent us all to a psychologist and it went something like this:”
    Yeah, but there’s a big difference, handd. You weren’t in demand. You were a completely replaceable piece of cannon fodder.
    Stafford, on the other hand, is holding a winning lottery ticket. He’s in demand. He’s a valuable commodity. He has enough power that he can tell someone to piss off if they come at him with bullchit questions like these, because he knows someone else will be willing to step up and draft and pay him.
    Good for Stafford.

  54. Florio is a complete hack. We can all agree on that, right? Okay, now that “that’s” settled. How does asking about his divorce possible affect the pressure of a LB coming at him? I mean come on.
    I see you are at it again Handd. The difference is that you were a Marine with a gun, not a football. Your feeble mind doesn’t understand that, we get it.
    The rest of you that think this is a good line of questioning can blow me.

  55. Seems to me, the only “bad” reaction Stafford could have had was to break down in tears or something. He fought back — that’s a plus for him.

  56. I’m willing to bet that no one here has a copy of the entire line of questioning given to Stafford. That being said, we don’t know how Stafford reacted to questions leading up to, “sounds like you have unfinished business regarding your parents divorce.” There is a reason why that question was asked and the clue is in “sounds like you”. There was obviously something in Stafford’s demeanor or answers that could give the psychologist that conclusion.
    The funny thing to me is the slew of commentors with all their anger issues about an article that has nothing to do with anyone they’ve ever met in real life. It’s a perfectly good line of questioning. It’s also perfectly good to have unfinished business regarding a divorce that happened in high school, however, it’s not perfectly good to be unprofessional in the answer. Everything is not going to go your way on the football field, not to mention that QB is the most complex position on the field.
    Can he handle the pressures of being an NFL QB? If you’re drafting the next face of your franchise, you’re going to want someone who isn’t bothered by the questions even if you’re still bothered by the divorce. To me, you can still answer the question professionally while at the same time having those particular feelings.
    Lastly, there are tons of jobs that require psych exams which are completely legal. I think I’d like to know how a person is going to react after losing a critical game and have to deal with media and fan scrutiny, especially at the QB position, where being able to remain cool during ANY and ALL pressure is a necessity. You’re leading men out there and you have to have confidence to move on, or you end up like Kyle Boller.

  57. Its amazing how many idiots post on this board. Some “big people” jobs require psych evauls where they ask personal questions, you don’t have to answer them but then again they don’t have to hire you. They probably wanted to see if they could get under his skin and it worked. Imagine what defensive players will be saying to him during games. To all those people that said he should be evaulated on talent and not his personal life, please think before you post. How many careers are ended because a player makes a bad personal choice off the field? Vick? It would be embarassing if a team didn’t look into players personal life and just focused on their talent.

  58. smart1= that was quite the ignorant comeback. You need to bring more then name calling. You statement was stupid for the reasons i pointed to earlier and I was not the only one. Go upstairs and ask your mom to explain it to you if you are having problems.

  59. @dc bengals fan..you’re absolutely correct,do you think that a couple of teams that have recently taken qb’s in the top of the first round have asked these questions?your comment about the police blotter is spot on,if teams paid more attention to the police reports than their so called screening department they could save a ton load of money.
    the more i hear mike singletary speak,the more i feel he’s doomed to failure.the guy’s dumb.

  60. Good for Stafford. It’s none of the Niner’s f’ing business. And frankly, Florio, I found your post on this a bit offensive, as well. Hollywood Wags is right. You of all people should know you can’t bring this type of question up in a job interview unless you have an urge to give away some of your foldin’ money at the EEOC hearing.
    By the way, you came across as a pompous uncaring butthole. After getting dragged through the mud as a kid in a similar experience, I wouldn’t have been as nice as Stafford with my answer.

  61. Orangello_Jones says:
    March 25th, 2009 at 1:27 pm
    “I’d also like someone like ChrisJ Nelson to tell me WTF this has to do with freaking football. The fact that he’s payed millions is irrelevant and in no way is a question about his parents divorce the slightest bit appropriate or anyone but the Stafford family’s business.”
    If you had millions of dollars to invest in one stock and one stock only, I’d like to know what criteria you would use to make that investment. For me, I’d really like to know how stable the company is going to be that I’m investing in. The same principle applies here, only a human is involved, so I can see why you’ve reacted in the manner you did, but it really is no different. If you can’t see the importance of how the most important position on the field reacts to pressure, then sir, you a fool.
    It’s important because your QB is leading a team, setting a tone, and an example. Does trash talking from the defense get to him? What about a bad ref call? What if his teammates question him on a decision or his play? Then there’s the media after the game, or if he happens to pick up a newspaper or turn on ESPN, how does he handle criticism? Those are parts of the game that he has to deal with.
    Then there’s off-field issues. What personal factors in the lives of Matt Jones, Mike Vick, Pacman, and Donte Stallworth attributed to their self-destructive behaviour when not on the gridiron? The employer has a right to know whether or not a divorce is going affect someone in a negative manner. This isn’t an everyday man’s job like you or me. This is a high profile, high pressure job where the salary is MILLIONS of dollars. Players who mess up because of personal problems who don’t count against the salary cap are cut right away, but top draft picks who count a lot are given chance after chance. You don’t see how money is an issue? I’m sure your boss wouldn’t want you bringing your personal problems to your job. It’s sad that you can’t see how one will affect the other.
    “Any of you folks who would have sucked it up and taken that just show your lack of intestinal fortitude and self respect.”
    There is nothing in that article to suggest anything about someone having to “suck it up.” Anyone who’s so inclined to be as angry as you about the whole situation just shows that you have no intellectual fortitude to be able to see through such a line of questioning and obviously Stafford did or this wouldn’t have been written:
    In fairness to Stafford, his actual comments in the SI article at issue don’t create the impression that he was pissed about the line of questioning. “I felt like, I wonder how much I’m being charged per hour for this?” Stafford said. “But I understand. They’re going to pay a lot of money in the first round.”

  62. First of all Ralph Barbiri (sp) is an idiot. Anything he focuses on is bullshit he’s trying to stir up out of nothing. He’s one of the worst interviewers in the world and has a negetive outlook on every situation.

  63. It’s amazing how many stupid people we have here? What does this personal stuff have to do with football? EVERYTHING.
    What NFL have you been following where every good college player translates into a good pro player? That’s not how it works, because there are other factors coming into play – a few of them being mental and emotional stability. Ryan Leaf had immense talent and all the tools, so what separates him from Peyton Manning? What’s going on upstairs, that’s what.
    Not only are the 49ers right to ask about these things, they wouldn’t be doing their jobs properly if they didn’t. Good GMs and good coaches, before investing draft picks, roster spaces and, in Stafford’s case, millions upon millions of dollars, in a player, do their due diligence. That includes making sure there aren’t other factors in the player’s life that might negate his football talent and cause him to flop as a prop player.

  64. theVIC
    Yeah, but there’s a big difference, handd. You weren’t in demand. You were a completely replaceable piece of cannon fodder.
    FYI, less than 1% of Marines did what I did. Since it was a voluntary assignment and 50% failure rate of the few that qualified, I think I was in demand. Attacking me doesn’t make Stafford any more qualified than what he is or isn’t.
    As far as: Stafford, on the other hand, is holding a winning lottery ticket. He’s in demand. He’s a valuable commodity. He has enough power that he can tell someone to piss off if they come at him with bullchit questions like these, because he knows someone else will be willing to step up and draft and pay him.
    Who did he tell to piss off? As far as power, he has none. He is at the mercy of the NFL draft. If he had power he would have told Detroit to piss off and not pretending like he wants to go there. He just wants to be drafted #1 for the money, he’s not dumb. You better hope Detroit drafts him #1 (I don’t think they will), or he will drop like Brady Quinn did.

  65. No wonder why this organization now sucks. I’m sure Bill Walsh could have cared less about a potential draft players emotional “baggage” associated with his parents divorce. I guess Alex Smith answered these types of questions to the 49ers liking. If I were Stafford, I would have told them to shove their psych up their a@@es and go watch some film.

  66. To bshazzar and ChrisJ Nelson:
    learn to read and try again. This time actually answer the question. No one said psyche exams weren’t normal parts of high profile high pressure jobs. The question was how does a question about a guy’s parent’s divorce have anything at all to do with how well he handles pressure on the football field?
    To phrase it differently so you weaklings (yes weaklings, anyone who lets their personal business be pried into without impunity is a spineless fool) can understand it:
    What in Stafford’s past football exploits -which are enough to warrant #1 overall consideration- gives you the notion that his parents divorce has been interfering with his ability to do his job and be a professional?
    You’re right about one thing though, yes psyche exams are standard in some fields and no not all questions are appropriate. The person with the backbone says as much and refuses to answer whether it means they get the job or not. It’s called having principles and living by them. None of your business is none of your business. If a pathetic organization like SF wants to ask that then fine I’m sure someone else will be interested. Since Stafford is absolutely going to be drafted in the 1st round he’s going to be obscenely rich no matter where he goes. Considering those parameters you’d have to be a spineless fool to let someone pry in your life to that degree.

  67. to bshazzar
    There is nothing in that article to suggest anything about someone having to “suck it up.” Anyone who’s so inclined to be as angry as you about the whole situation just shows that you have no intellectual fortitude to be able to see through such a line of questioning and obviously Stafford did or this wouldn’t have been written:
    My God for someone claiming to be blessed with well endowed intellectual fortitiude might want to take the time and clue in what you obviously missed Einstein: my comments weren’t merely directed at Florio…I was responding to spineless dimwits like you who don’t have too lofty of principles or willingly compromise them for money. Again, anyone worth a salt tells that shrink and by extension the 49ers to go eff themselves when they go down that road. You can do it professionally but the basic message should most definitely be “go pound sand you wankers”. The 49ers have every right and responsibility to do a psyche evaluation and run some stress tests, but going into that kind of crap without good precedence, (ie a full melt that screwed his team) is completely out of line. And Ryan Leaf is a HORRIBLE example, the guy had all kind of baggage that was well known to people close to him yet the Chargers did no research at all. There was zero vetting done there.

  68. So why did the Bay Area media get all worked up over this one? Because the SF media is virutally all style, no substance. They will build their heros, they will make their goats. Reality will be different.

  69. In my opinion I think this is very wrong because parents divorce can affect in many ways and im very happy my parents are still together but I have had friends go trough this and its a subject we dont touch. If i was Stafford the guy askin me would have got his @ss whopped with one of the chairs and the 49ers would regret it every time we played.
    P.S: Florio you should be ashamed

  70. Orangello_Jones – Because Stafford is not just a robot playing football, he’s a human being. And, as a human being, he is subject to mental and emotional stresses that could significantly impact his professional career in a negative way.
    I’ve already told you why the divorce (or anything else that has happened in his life that may be a source of stress) was relevant – because of the investment. As a general manager or head coach, you owe it to yourself, your organization and your fans to do your due diligence and ensure the guy doesn’t have any mental instability before you pay him millions of dollars to lead your franchise.

  71. The incident occurred while Stafford was in high school, and Stafford claims that the psychologist told Stafford that “it sounded like he had ‘unfinished business’ concerning the divorce.”
    Orangello_Jones says:
    “My God for someone claiming to be blessed with well endowed intellectual fortitiude might want to take the time and clue in what you obviously missed Einstein: my comments weren’t merely directed at Florio…I was responding to spineless dimwits like you who don’t have too lofty of principles or willingly compromise them for money.”
    You told me in another comment to learn to read, heed your own advice. There’s nothing in my post that says your posts were directed merely at Florio. Also, I’d like for you to actually read the quote from the article at the top of this particular comment AGAIN, because you obviously can’t get the context of the quote. It doesn’t cross a line.
    “Again, anyone worth a salt tells that shrink and by extension the 49ers to go eff themselves when they go down that road. You can do it professionally but the basic message should most definitely be “go pound sand you wankers”.”
    No reason for this type of classless response unless you’re the thin skinned sensitive type.
    “The 49ers have every right and responsibility to do a psyche evaluation and run some stress tests, but going into that kind of crap without good precedence, (ie a full melt that screwed his team) is completely out of line.”
    First off, you contradict yourself in this point. Next, Ask the Titans if they saw anything in Vince Young’s college career or past that would lead them to believe he was gonna kirk out one Monday night simply because fans were booing. The eval is completely legitimate when you’re making that huge of an investment that could potentially set your already down in the dumps franchise back even further. Last year the 49ers took a nice step forward. The last thing they need to have is another Alex Smith dilemma.
    I’m sorry you can’t see how people who can’t handle problems in their personal life and how it correlates to job performance in an EXTREMELY stressful and HIGH PRESSURE work environment. I work with NFLers through a non-profit group and they’ll tell you, the divorce issue pales in comparison to other things that are discussed during psyche evaluations, not to mention the background checks they do. Teams will interview a player’s kindergarten teachers to see if they had problems playing with others at an early age. You have a lot to learn about life, as well as the NFL.

  72. I can’t believe the sensitivity of the readership here. Stafford chose to play football, not become a concert pianist. The line of questioning had nothing to do with whether he had unresolved issues, and everything to do with if he could keep his composure when someone pushes his buttons and it sounds like he failed miserably. It is hard to say how bad his reaction was because none of us were there to see it, but Singletary seems to be convinced that this kid can’t take the pressure. If it is that easy to get inside of the guy’s head and make him lose his cool, then he doesn’t have the mental makeup of an NFL QB.

  73. Boy, great timing on this report. It only happened 2-3 weeks ago. Way to be on the ball!
    Then again, as a Niner fan, you got to wonder why they do the things they do. The new brain trust better have a good draft or the pressure will be on AGAIN.

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