Singletary admits he didn't shake Mike Smith's hand

NFL_singletary1_250.jpgOn Sunday, the 49ers built a 14-0 lead over the Falcons.  Eventually, the Falcons erased the deficit and won the game.

After the game, 49ers coach Mike Singletary skipped the traditional handshake with the other coach.

On Wednesday, he admitted that he had dissed Smith.  “That was poor sportsmanship on my behalf,” Singletary said, according to David White of the San Francisco Chronicle.

But Singletary didn’t apologize for the situation, and he hasn’t contacted Smith to discuss it.

“I
don’t know if any of you guys ever get ticked,” Singletary said. “I’d
be the first to tell my kid that was wrong.  I should have went over and
shook his hand.  I chose not to for a number of reasons.”

So he was wrong to do it, but he’s not apologizing for it? 

“I was disappointed,” Singletary said, “and that was a very honest feeling after the game.”

We’re not sure what to make of this.  On one hand, we respect the honesty.  On the other hand, we’re not sure that being honest but not truly contrite is the right approach.  Though it’s better than being dishonest and not truly contrite, Singletary seems to be saying that, under the same circumstances, he’d do it again.

110 responses to “Singletary admits he didn't shake Mike Smith's hand

  1. I should have went over and shook his hand.
    Singletary should have “went” back to school to study English.

  2. I fail to see how being disappointed makes it the right thing to do.
    Sporano had his arse handed to him by BB courtesy of special teams and he still had the balls to meet BB for the usual.
    Just sounds like he acted like a kid, knows he acted like a kid and wants to throw a tantrum and continue to act like a kid instead of sucking it up and doing what is right.

  3. This tells me that Sing doesn’t particularly like something about Smith and his “dirty”birds. BUT my Niners lost that game on there own.

  4. I once had hope for him when he got hired, but every time I read a story where hes talking, it becomes clear that he has no idea what hes doing 84% of the time

  5. Let’s face it. This guy was a very good (probably HOF) player that played with a lot of emotion—-and this probably served him well as an assistant coach as well. As for being a head coach, he still has a hot fire/temper and he’s going to burn out quicker than most other coaches as he should be more level-headed in a leadership role. It’s only a matter of time before he either blows and makes a total fool of himself or his “act” with the players will just wear off and he won’t be taken seriously………maybe that’s already happened in his short stint as a head coach.

  6. I like Singletary as a player and I think he is a good coach. He just doesn’t have a solid quarterback that can carry his team. Should have gotten Donovan Mcnabb in the offseason. Alex Smith is not the answer.

  7. Wound pretty tight — still.
    Works well on the field; not too well on the sideline. See Ditka. Mike.

  8. As a Niner fan, I’m really tired of this guy, his temper, his lack of control and his inability to coach an NFL franchise. PLEASE FIRE HIM, York family. It’ll be one of the few smart things you’ve done in the 12 years you’ve “owned” this franchise.

  9. I heard thru the grapevine that Coach Singletary went into the tunnel and did his “pants on the ground” thing ….
    so Smith could finish the job …..

  10. What a crybaby. For someone who constantly talks about being a “man”, he has no idea how to act like one.

  11. Translation: I wanted management to realize that not only can I not win games, I’m also an asshole, and a 14 year old acts in a more adult manner.

  12. @bigbear
    It’s not the right thing to do. That’s why he said “it’s the wrong thing to do.”

  13. Mike DID NOT TRY to shake his hand, Mike WILL shake his hand. Unless Mike decides not to.

  14. Maybe he heard that Reggie Bush admitted mistakes without apologizing and it would be okay if he did it.

  15. What a putz. The guy’s an overrated, pants-dropping clown who has failed to turn the 69ers around. Amazing how much coverage this loser gets.

  16. So, men who’ve never had an ounce of NFL experience gets to tell Mike Singletary how to conduct himself in an NFL environment. RICH! Nexy you’ll be telling him how to speak proper…went/gone (No Keith Brookings)

  17. Singletary got moved along in the coaching profession WAYYY too fast and only because of the Rooney Rule. His coaching credentials are severely lacking. Dropping your pants only gets you so far.

  18. He is on a hot seat right now. Unless he can go atleast 2-2 (being very kind right now) in the next 4 games he might be seeing his head coaching job gone by week 8! It probably be smart, this is the NFL not college.
    I am not a 49ers fan but I would be pissed if I was!
    Zygi Wilf is awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!

  19. What he’s saying is “oh well, even if we win the division, I’m probably out of a job.” May as well be himself. They will be looking to Gruden, or Harbaugh next year

  20. Mikey is a lame duck coach. He is way to insecure to be a leader. The only reason he was a leader on the Bears, is because of his playing abilities. There is no substitution for real leadership, and past talent only gets you a job, it does not help you perform in that job.

  21. How about if everyone gets off his ass? He doesn’t exactly have the most talent in the world to work with… he’ll be alright given time.

  22. # beastroid says: October 7, 2010 10:58 PM
    I once had hope for him when he got hired, but every time I read a story where hes talking, it becomes clear that he has no idea what hes doing 84% of the time
    _____________________________________
    More like 98%

  23. mike smith is a chump cheerleader. singletary has his faults but mike smith may be the biggest d-bag coach in the nfl. he runs his mouth, picks fights with opposing teams (even during games), and postures more than college basketball coaches.

  24. When does it kick in to some that deep down it’s just not the “thing for me” ? Then they ride off into the sunset. Maybe a defensive coordinator is the calling. Or not

  25. so when it’s singletary he’s a bad sport, and a piss poor coach.
    but if it’s belicheat, he’s a determined game-planner, already looking at the next match-up. and the most focused coach ever.

  26. Wow, only 4 weeks into the season and that team has gone from playoffs to Cuckoo’s Nest. What are the odds that Singletary gets fired by Week 8?

  27. Can’t help but find it amusing that Singletary is ridiculed for something that is not only expected but ignored when old Bilichick does it. I’m no 49’er fan by any means, but this whole article is stupid.

  28. Just another example of why this guy is not ready to coach in the NFL. And I don’t think he will ever be ready. If the owners are smart (a BIG if), they will let him finish out this miserable season. Then they will hire a real GM, who will hire a real coach, and they they will draft a real QB.

  29. I agree that the 9ers need to just move on after the year is out. Singletary, one of the top 3 greatest MLBs of all-time is not cut out to be a head coach. D-coordinator is his thing…
    But as far as him not shaking hands…….seriously??? The dude is a competitor and did not want to shake Smith’s hand. He lost big and wasn’t happy…That’s being a competitor

  30. Just another example of why this guy is not ready to coach in the NFL. And I don’t think he will ever be ready. If the owners are smart (a BIG if), they will let him finish out this miserable season. Then they will hire a real GM, who will hire a real coach, and they they will draft a real QB.

  31. He was only hired because of the rooney rule. Let’s get back to hiring who the teams need to coach, regardless of race!!

  32. Wow! I don’t want to exagerate here. As a leader, especially in a locker room with highly egotistical athletes you have to assume what you do speaks louder than what you say. How does he hold his players accountable with a straight face in regards to sportsmanship acting like a child who didn’t get picked for a pick up game and took his ball home? As a coach he should be held to a higher standard. Say what you want 49er fans, his explanation was worse than what he did. Lebron got destroyed by the media for the same thing in the playoffs. He has issues.

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  34. He’s proving more and more that he is not head coach material.
    Get Jim Zorn to SF NOW!

  35. With alot of coaches … you hear that huge sucking sound!!!
    But, with Singletary, you hear … tick! tick! tick! tick! tick!

  36. All Nate had to do when he intercepted the ball was to run out of bounds. What is the need to score when you already have the lead with only 90 seconds remaining? But no, he had to be the damn hero. Moron.

  37. it becomes clear that he has no idea what hes doing 84% of the time

    The 16% he does (presumably) know doesn’t say much either given the dumb plays, dumb mistakes, dumb decisions made by his players at critical junctures in every loss so far.
    And before anyone blubbers over so-and-so also not shaking hands, remember Singletary made “character” his raison d’etre, his excuse for not being strategically, tactically or technically competitive with his peers.
    Personally? I suspect Singletary intended to drop trou on Smith but as he unbuckled his belt, dropped a load, which he confirmed with his hands.

  38. 2-14. this clown is off his rocker. c’mon jed, hire a dog gone GM and a real coach!

  39. not a falcons fan, but that’s a cuuunt move.
    your team sucks.
    you just found there’s more to coaching than inspirational speaking.

  40. He should be “sorry” his team is 0-4.
    more time coaching the team and less time chitty-chatting with the media might ameliorate this situation.
    as a former player he might have heard: “put up or shut up.”

  41. What’s with the “cross” necklace? It doesn’t make any sense except as maybe a rediculous fashion statement from a reality challenged douche bag. Unbelievable.

  42. Mike Singletary… becoming the West Coast version of Rod Moronelli? While the 49ers have way too much talent to go 0-16, here’s to hoping they underachieve enough to “earn” a new head coach next year.

  43. In the immortal words of Bugs Bunny, which somehow seems fitting for this site…
    “What a maroon”.

  44. The intangible things he brings are his credibility as a Hall of Famer and his integrity as a man of faith and a guy who speaks the truth.
    This is a stain for a guy who holds certain principles. It’s not OK to be a poor sport.
    He sets a bad example to a lot of kids here. Seems like he should care more about that.

  45. This dude is WAY too emotional to be a head coach.
    Maybe he could coach special teams or something – in Canada. Maybe!

  46. No excuse. 14 coaches lost games on Sunday, one couldn’t handle his emotions enough to shake hands with the opposing coach.
    Singletary has the football skills of a hall of famer and the emotional maturity of a 12 year old.

  47. bad asset says:
    October 8, 2010 4:21 AM
    What’s with the “cross” necklace? It doesn’t make any sense except as maybe a rediculous fashion statement from a reality challenged douche bag. Unbelievable.
    ======================
    It’s religous symbol. It’s a sign of someone who is a born again Christian.
    A guy I worked with was “born again” and started wearing the same cross around his neck at the office. It was extremely creepy.
    Another bad sign for Mikey, IMO. Regular Christians are annoying enough, the “Born Agains” are one step down from a cult.

  48. Great Coach, Wrong Team…
    I never understood how, at the end of a 60 min game, the two teams come together, laugh, talk, and joke. It is war for 60 min, then they can just turn it off, like a light switch? I don’t understand.
    Coach Singletary is a warrior, no question, and we need more of this. Look back when Buddy Ryan sucker punched a coach at the end of a game, I would love a coach with that mentality.
    The NFL is watered down, there a few players that still have the real fire needed for the 60 min war.

  49. Who cares? This is professional football, not little league. He doesn’t have to shake the man’s hand if doesn’t want to, and he certainly doesn’t need to apologize to anybody. Besides, sportsmanship’s irrelevant and overrated.

  50. Why does anyone think Singletary should be a defensive coordinator? He’s a cheerleader, not an X’s and O’s guy. Singletary couldn’t coordinate his way out of a paper bag. He has no business being charge of a defense, let alone a whole team. He’s a linebackers coach and a motivational speaker. That’s all the expertise he has.

  51. “On the other hand, we’re not sure that being honest but not truly contrite is the right approach. Though it’s better than being dishonest and not truly contrite”
    Over-analyze much Florio? He didn’t shake his hand, big deal. I’m sure many people have passed on shaking your hand.

  52. “For a number of reasons,” the ONLY reason he didn’t handshake was because they lost. He sprints across the field after they win. Period.

  53. What’s the over/under on how many weeks until he’s doing Coors Lite commercials? Five, six?

  54. For someone who is always so revered for being a tough hardnosed guy he sure does act like a big baby alot. He however is not the only person not to shake hands. P. Manning didn’t shake hands after the Super Bowl choke..errr loss last year.
    Not sure why people are saying Belicheck didn’t take any flack for not shaking hands. I remember them showing slow motion tape replays of him not shaking hands. Not saying that you shouldn’t man up and shake hands but the whole process is about the fakest and most awkward thing in sports.

  55. realitypolice says: “Regular Christians are annoying enough”………..Coming from a soulless atheist, I consider that statement an honor. It shows what you’re are really made of.

  56. MrONE50 says:
    October 7, 2010 11:32 PM
    So, men who’ve never had an ounce of NFL experience gets to tell Mike Singletary how to conduct himself in an NFL environment. RICH! Nexy you’ll be telling him how to speak proper…went/gone (No Keith Brookings)
    ==========================
    I hate this stupid f****** argument. Every time some clown in the NFL does something assinine, people like you say we can’t have an opinion because we weren’t in the NFL.
    It’s called common sense, stupid. Singletary didn’t make the decision whether or not to shake hands based upon his years and years of NFL experience. He made based upon his lack of maturity and sportsmanship.
    If you shake hands after a win, do it after a loss. Buddy Ryan never shook hands, win or lose, because he didn’t believe in it. Agree or not, at least he was consistent.
    Singletary is simply a poor sport who sprints across the field to shake hands when he wins, and skulks to the locker room when he loses.

  57. No one wanted Singletary to succeed more than me. But now it seems like he’s not living by the same principles he preaches. This is just piss poor. Acting like a spoiled Lebron or something. He’ll be gone by the end of the season.

  58. What a jerk Singletary is….why doesnt the NFL make him take his cross off around his neck? What other coach would get away with doing that?

  59. If Mike Smith had “forgotten” to go over and shake Singletary’s hand….the media media would be outraged and would label it as racist
    There should be more outrage about this IMO

  60. Total Loserville. Hypocrite wearing that cross.
    WWJD? He’d certainly shake the guy’s hand.
    Take off the cross. Be a man. Resign. You’re a loser.

  61. # gforce89 says: October 7, 2010 11:21 PM
    Question – would he have snubbed Lovie Smith or Mike Tomlin…you decide.
    ________________________
    Suggesting he didn’t shake Mike Smith’s hand because he is white is ignorant. He didn’t shake his hand because he was interviewed for the job in 2007 and not in 2008. He’s bitter about that, not Smith’s race.

  62. # Infidel says: October 7, 2010 11:03 PM
    Wound pretty tight — still.
    Works well on the field; not too well on the sideline. See Ditka. Mike.
    =======================
    See rings, one. “Super Bowl” Shuffle, and about 3 or 4 HOF players…not failed draft picks, cast offs and big mouth receivers and tight ends.

  63. How many times those who flaunt the cross don’t feel they need to live by it. No more lectures from this man.

  64. And he has the nerve to wear that large wooden cross everyday- some Christian. Not only is he one foot out the door in SF, his words and actions may prevent him from getting another job, other than via cronyism. Players outbursts and unprofessionalism he doesn’t tolerate, but his own is ok- hypocrite.

  65. He’ed get a roundhouse kick to the face if he didn’t shake Chuck Norris’s hand

  66. And the Falcons were thinking about hiring him in 2007.
    Still would take Singletary over Bobby Petrino though.

  67. He remembered what happened to DeAngelo Hall and didn’t want to get anywhere close to Smith

  68. Ravens Macg says:
    October 8, 2010 12:41 AM
    He was only hired because of the rooney rule. Let’s get back to hiring who the teams need to coach, regardless of race!!
    Of course you are right on, lets face it any decision made in the City of San Francisco both public and private are first and foremost politically correct.

  69. Singletary’s fall has been unfortunate. I thought he would have been a great coach. He’s proven his supporters wrong.
    And what happened to policing comments? All the race shots are uncalled for.

  70. He is a horrible coach. Special teams, offense, and the secondary has been horrible the entire time he has been coach. He has improved nothing. Game 1 play calling was horrible, plays weren’t getting to the qb, and red zone offense was just bad. Week 2, time management was just bad, and his mighty defense gave up a game winning drive in under 2 minutes. Game 3, the team just got destroyed in every area, and he decided to call a timeout with 3 seconds left. He wanted to run 1 more meaningless play, and play in which Josh Morgan got banged up. Week 4, he fires the offensive coordinator to eliminate some of the heat, nothing improves, and his mighty defense gives up another game winning drive. It’s ashame we are loosing a great linebackers coach, he should have never been promoted in the first place.

  71. Gregg Easterbrook said in his last two articles that the 49ers looked uncoached. I think that hits the nail on the head. Horrible decisions, poor play-calling, communication problems, terrible time management. The 9ers are playing far below their talent level. Singletary never should have been promoted beyond a position coach. At least not without quite a bit more time to develop. I’ll eat crow and admit that I was initially a big supporter of Singletary, but at this point I think the entire coaching staff is just incompetent.
    On the other hand, changing coaches midseason hardly ever turns out well. Promote one of the under performing coordinators? After Erickson, Nolan, and now Singletary, the idea of this front office hiring another head coach makes me feel sick to my stomach.

  72. Sitting in the Orange Bowl in 1985 watching Miami hand the Chicago Bears their only loss that year, MIKE DITKA did the same thing….blew off Don Shula.
    No one ever said a word about it but I have hated Ditka ever since that day.

  73. Tau Psi Que says: October 8, 2010 7:54 AM
    Coach Singletary is a warrior, no question, and we need more of this. Look back when Buddy Ryan sucker punched a coach at the end of a game, I would love a coach with that mentality.
    Uhm….Buddy Ryan punched a defensive coach on HIS OWN sideline. If it’s in house conflict you’re after, I don’t know what to tell you.

  74. I smell a rat! I don’t know which way he must have went. They better call a team meeting because I can’t hardly put up with he rat alot.

  75. # Miami-fan-of-old says: October 9, 2010 8:51 AM
    Sitting in the Orange Bowl in 1985 watching Miami hand the Chicago Bears their only loss that year, MIKE DITKA did the same thing….blew off Don Shula.
    No one ever said a word about it but I have hated Ditka ever since that day.
    =====================================
    You should stay at one of his resorts! All the employees hate him and he makes them wear his freaking jersey! EVERY ONE OF EM!

  76. Singletary was a great player and it remains to be seen if he is equally a great coach. He has a bad team right now and who knows what transpired behind the scenes of why he didn’t shake Smiths hand. If Smith did something to disrespect Singletary or his team than maybe he was right to blow him off.

  77. It was only a matter of time before some idiot on this post blamed the Rooney rule for Sing’s hiring, etc.
    Guess that explains how guys like Norv Turner, Wade Phillips, Jim Zorn, Gary Kubiak, Lane Kiffin, Josh McDaniels, Tom Cable, and Mike Martz have held jobs in the NFL.
    But of course, this is the same idiot who whines about others whining about racism.

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