Cowboys worried about Dez, but unable to help him

AP

From the moment the lockout started, one of the biggest practical consequences became clear.  Teams no longer would be able to help players who need it.

The truth is that none of us know the extent to which certain teams assisted certain players, whether via formal counseling or the coach-player relationship or the player development office or some other device.  Though plenty of players found plenty of trouble when counseling and other types of communications were available, the team could them assist on the back end.  During the lockout, any player who gets into trouble is on his own.

In the case of Cowboys receiver Dez Bryant, it’s causing plenty of concern for his team.

You have to be worried, based on the stuff he’s been through and the history of having done it before, it’s kind of a pattern with him,” a team source told Albert Breer of NFL Network.  “It’s not being able to take care of the things that you’d expect the normal 22 year old to be able to handle.  Sometimes, it’s the simplest things.  And a lot of it is not his fault, it’s because of the way he was brought up.  He’s got a good heart, and the best intentions, but all this stuff happens and it takes away from that.”

But Bryant by no means has no one to help him.  He has an agent, Eugene Parker, and an “advisor,” David Wells.  During Thursday’s PFT Live, I took aim at Wells, questioning his role (or lack thereof) in truly advising Dez Bryant.  Instead, Wells went on radio this week to tell the world that Dez is in a “dark place.”

So how in the hell does it help Dez for Wells to say that publicly?  Wells instead should be focused on getting his client out of that “dark place.”

And where’s Parker in all of this?  To our knowledge, he hasn’t said a word about Bryant’s predicament.  Though it’s possible that Parker quietly is working behind the scenes to help his client, there’s no evidence that it’s happening — and no proof that it’s working.

Despite Dez’s upbringing and circumstances and maturity level, he’s 22.  It’s time to stand up and take control of his life.  He has achieved things athletically that few can.  It’s time for him to do what most normal adults have done, and start acting like one.

The first step should be to sever ties with anyone should have been helping him as he piled up hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt.  The second step should be to find people who will help him settle up those debts and otherwise get himself pointed in the right direction.

We admired how hard he played as a rookie, even when the Cowboys were struggling, and he has a bright future.  But the time has come to grow up — and he’d benefit from having some people in his life who would tell him that.

Until the lockout ends, the Cowboys can’t.

48 responses to “Cowboys worried about Dez, but unable to help him

  1. I honestly don’t understand why Dez Bryant matters so much to you. And I don’t mean that as a slight to him or to you. I’m just confused by all the constant Dez Bryant posts and this post in particular where you’re playing the Dr. Phil role for him.

  2. thats the problem with these players. Everyone is helping them. Whether it’s helping them cheat in school, taxes, on their bills, their wives , and in life period.

    Make them accept whatever comes their way as a result of THEIR OWN actions and maybe, just maybe these spoiled, entitled, deadbeats will learn accountability and finall become productive citizens

  3. I don’t see why this is such a big deal. I don’t understand whta he needs “help” with. Oh noez, he owes people money??? So does 99% of America. That doesn’t put us in “a dark place”. What a non-story.

  4. Pants on the ground !!!! Lookin like a fool!!!!
    At least he won’t be broke in 3 years cause he never pays his bills

  5. Honest question to Cowboy fans or anyone that follows him more closely: what exactly has he been going through that’s so horrible? He got tossed from a high end mall for dressing like a slob, then he got in trouble for stealing jewelry or something like that. But then you get reports like this one about how he’s in a dark place, or he needs all this help.

    Is there something underlying that’s cause for real concern? Like serious drug addiction, or family illnesses or addiction in the family – something like that? Cause I don’t see why there should be all this personal concern over a guy if he’s just a petty thief who dresses like a slob.

  6. @flyerscup:

    Because Dez Bryant is who you look at when you want to know why everybody thinks the players are a bunch of ignorant neanderthals suckling at the teets of the owners.

    Do you see how he’s being talked about by team officials, “It’s not being able to take care of the things that you’d expect the normal 22 year old to be able to handle.”

    I mean that’s pretty hefty stuff to say about a guy who’s supposed to be in control of a small fortune before he ever turns 30.

  7. Is this guy an adult or what ? We all have things to deal with everyday, does he have a child like mind or criminal behavior ? It’s like we are grooming a bunch of animals that need trainers with chairs to get through the day, I mean my god is this what it comes down too ?

    I suggest that before teams throw Millions of $’s at people that can barely cross the street without finding trouble, they think again. I’m glad they can block better, run faster & hit harder but at what cost is it to do business with them ?

    This is just so embarassing & having stories posted about these guys & their own stupidity just makes you wonder why anyone would feed the animals. Isn’t there a sign at any normal park that warns you not to do this ?

    Plan on more black eyes with the adult kids with criminal minds, that’s what the NFL promotes.

  8. The melodrama is so thick you can cut it with a knife. The guy owes money for some crap he bought before he even made it to the NFL, some of it as far back as 2008. The guy didn’t even turn 22 until last November. It’s not like he killed anybody or even stole anything from anybody. His only victim is his credit rating. Give the man a chance to make good on it.

  9. Just like the great Michael Jackson once exclaimed, “Iam talking about the man in the mirror, Iam asking him to change his ways…”. If Dez can’t help himself get out of this situation, he’ll be exactly what all the nay sayers have said, a financially irresponsible professional athlete.

    Other than that, he’s a damned good football player… Who cares what he does with his wallet.

  10. ” And a lot of it is not his fault, it’s because of the way he was brought up. He’s got a good heart, and the best intentions, but all this stuff happens and it takes away from that.”

    As long as you have team sources that make excuses for Dez’s behavior, instead of holding him accountable for his actions, he will never grow into a responsible adult.

  11. “do what most normal adults have done, and start acting like one”

    You expect this from the same guy that forgot his cleats to his NFL Workout? Good luck with that.

  12. Dez has to realize that you need to pay for services that you, yourself, ordered.

    If he has trouble with that concept, he should ask his Mom how that works in her profession.

  13. “…Sometimes, it’s the simplest things. And a lot of it is not his fault, it’s because of the way he was brought up…”
    B.S. Everybody’s gotta grow up sometime.

  14. These stories are stupid. What are the Cowboys going to tell Dez? “Hey dude, pay your bills that you can afford”.

    Why is Dez in a dark place? Because he owes some money? Didn’t he get like an 8 million dollar signing bonus last year? Just pay it off….

  15. Maybew Dez just needs to get away from the cesspool that is the Dallas Cowboys organization. Thank you Jerry for ruining one of the best franchises in history. It’s only natural that the players would be tainted by the owner.

  16. It’s pretty obvious why Dez Bryant is a FUP. The author if this article made excuses for him, saying “its not his fault because to the way he was brought up”…really?
    This punk had people making excuses for him for years. All they do is enable him. Millions of people grow up poor and abused are NOT low life POS’s like this guy. This guy is a punk and he will continue to be a punk until people stop protecting him and make him accountable.

  17. Why do you think CHARACTER is so important? Teams want to teach strategy and technique–they are not interested in constantly protecting divas from the real world.

    Most of these guys have had their butts kissed their entire lives. They live a double standard. Sometimes the extra mothering is worth it when the payoff on the field warrants it.

    Don’t want a player like Dez on my team. Too many headaches.

  18. The “dark place” is one he created by closing his eyes to the world we all have to live in. Sorry if dress codes and jewelry are too much for him to handle.

    If it weren’t for the Lockout, Jerry Jones could pull out his nipple and plop it back into baby Dez’s mouth and sing him back to sleep.

  19. Why are the cowboys worried? This is par for the course for them. They had to expect it before they drafted this loser. Entitlement is a bitch for Dez and the cowboys.

  20. Can’t they contact his trusted adviser Mr Wells? Dez needs to get rid of the enablers, agents and advisers who got him into this “dark place”. Also take personal responsibility and QUIT using his upbringing as an excuse to act like a mindless, immature ne’er to do kid. Dress like a professional and act like a man. Act like a responsible man and father and pretty soon you will be the way you act.

  21. “It’s not being able to take care of the things that you’d expect the normal 22 year old to be able to handle. Sometimes, it’s the simplest things. And a lot of it is not his fault, it’s because of the way he was brought up.”
    —————–
    Although crass, it would seem that Jeff Ireland’s interview questions may have been pertinent after all.

  22. A billion dollar company is stress out that their multi-million dollar adult employee can’t be trusted to behave himself at the local mall.

    What a world.

  23. He’s good hearted????? That’s what they call people with tons of money who refuse to pay their bills or show ANY respect for authority nowadays? Give me a break already. America has become a nation of victims where one’s “intent” is more valuable and laudatory than their actual good deeds and their poor deccisions are called “mistakes” .

  24. @rpiotro1

    Petty thief, dresses like a slob… Sounds like a Cowboy to me! The up-and-coming Mike Irvin if you ask me, hell they where the same jersey # too.

  25. rpiotro, there is none.
    He has some debt and it’s suddenly a national story.
    I guess the other 1600 players in the NFL all have perfect credit and don’t hang out with guys who wear their pants low.

  26. The next person to help Dez will be the first one, I bet all the people who helped him along the way weren’t really helping but trying to get in good with him to leech off him. This kid needs a life coach who isn’t worried about what he can do for them. No guidance in this kids life at all!!

  27. “So how in the hell does it help Dez for Wells to say that publicly? Wells instead should be focused on getting his client out of that “dark place.””

    Perhaps because Bryant isn’t listening to Wells? Just because a player hire an adviser, doesn’t mean everything the adviser said is adhered to. Neither Bryant’s adviser or Agent can prevent him from buying something. They cannot force him to get help. All they can do is suggest. So perhaps Wells was trying to make a cry for help to find someone Bryant might actually listen to.

  28. What do we expect from young people who have had everthing given to them as if they were kings. When the time comes for some responability there is none. We continue to get reports along the lines of Dez as if it should surprise us. They have to be told how to do things and watched over yet owners continue to draft this type individual.

  29. Dez’s advisor tells the world that Dez is in a dark place? What’s next, a report that Dez’s body guard gave Dez a karate chop to the throat? I love a good reality series.

  30. One of Dez’s problems stems from the fact that a debt was supposed to be repaid under the conditions that the company owed the money drop their lawsuit. The company agreed dealing with Bryant’s lawyer Royce West. Guess what? The money promised by SENATOR WEST was never paid, even though it wasn’t a large amount. Six months later the company has to resue, and the damages have risen with interest and court costs. West and Wells have their hooks into Bryant for purely selfish reasons. Those two need to answer for a lot of corrupt business.

  31. I thought the NFLPA* took such good care of their members…. I guess not. Also, what the H$#@ is he paying his agent for. Lastly, he’s a grown man (grown enough to buy all kinds of shiny stuff)… maybe he can take some personal accountability.

  32. @iknowfootballandyoudont …

    Yes, yes … Dez Bryant’s personal issues are what’s wrong with “these” players. You’re always first on the board to spew your stereotypical bigotry at all 1700 current players in the league when a handful cause problems. I wonder what other kinds of bigotry your comments actually reflect.

  33. Yea, I saw the ultimate “NFL insider”, Albert Breer’s report on this guy the other night. Said that Bryant doesn’t even know right from wrong, but that he has a good heart.

    How exactly does that work? He doesn’t know it’s wrong to kill people, but he’ll kill somebody lovingly with a good heart? WTF?

    I don’t get it. I also don’t get how anybody can continue to claim that all of these people like Bryant and Jolly and all the others could possibly be “partners” in the NFL. That’s simply absurd.

  34. Dez carrys the typical mentality that is the result of hood parenting, Being told from birth, that nothing you do or fail to do is your fault.
    Zero accountability, zero responsibility.

    “Only god can judge me”, “You dont know me”

    These cronic ingrates, that always bite the hand that feeds, get a college degree they dont have to earn, thanks to the lower standards afforded them by affirmative action to begin with.
    If you feel sorry for any of them, you are a damn fool.

  35. @Deb

    You don’t see a pattern do you?

    I make a comment about one of MANY different players that is doing something stupid again and you come on here and defend them.

    Now remember, it’s not just ONE player I comment on because so many players are a drain oj society. Yet, no matter who the player is, you come on here and defend them.

    You are displaying disturbing classic groupie traits. But please, leave the articulate, informative, and in depth debates regarding football to the grown folks ok? But you can be cheerleader if you like.

  36. His advisor is doing a great job huh?

    Kind of like a drunk having a liquor salesman as his sponsor.

  37. The man needs to find a good woman.

    Otherwise, I agree with some of the sentiments here. Why do we all care what happens to this guy?

    It’s not my job to be his parents. But, as part of the generation that can’t understand the concept of taking responsibility, is he really to blame for what seems like a major issue in society today?

    When groups like PETA yell the loudest and are heard, your society is in big trouble.

  38. iknowfootballandyoudont says:
    @Deb
    You don’t see a pattern do you? I make a comment about one of MANY different players that is doing something stupid again and you come on here and defend them. Now remember, it’s not just ONE player I comment on because so many players are a drain oj society.

    ————————————————–
    Yes, I see a pattern. Dez Bryant is acting like an idiot and you’re using that to damn 1700 men, most of whom do their jobs and act responsibly. I’m not defending Dez Bryant but simply pointing out that it’s unfair to damn 1700 men for the actions of the minority. Meanwhile you keep claiming “so many players are a drain on society” with absolutely no data to back up that claim.

    Data–that would be something we grownups use to validate our assertions. But you and your fellow player-haters don’t need anything to validate your beliefs that all the players are spoiled, entitled, and overpaid. And if I, as a (gasp!) woman, dare to disagree with you–no matter how rational and factual my posts are–you dismiss me as a groupie and a cheerleader.

    Yes, I see exactly what’s happening here. So do the other handful of adults reading the site.

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