Brady Quinn’s poignant comments on relationships

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A bizarre, surreal, and tragic NFL weekend carried with it a very unexpected silver lining.

From this point forward, I have new respect for Chiefs quarterback Brady Quinn.

I don’t care about Quinn’s performance or the fact that the Chiefs won.  Quinn’s post-game remarks were eloquent and heartfelt and they captured perfectly one of the things we risk losing as a society that communicates primarily in snippets of misspelled words and emoticons.

“The one thing people can hopefully try to take away, I guess, is the relationships they have with people,” Quinn told reporters after the game.  “I know when it happened, I was sitting and, in my head, thinking what I could have done differently.  When you ask someone how they are doing, do you really mean it?  When you answer someone back how you are doing, are you really telling the truth?

“We live in a society of social networks, with Twitter pages and Facebook, and that’s fine, but we have contact with our work associates, our family, our friends, and it seems like half the time we are more preoccupied with our phone and other things going on instead of the actual relationships that we have right in front of us.  Hopefully, people can learn from this and try to actually help if someone is battling something deeper on the inside than what they are revealing on a day-to-day basis.”

These are words that we should all study, and heed.  I’ll be printing them out, keeping a copy on my desk, and reminding my son of Quinn’s thoughts whenever I can.

It’s impossible to know whether greater sensitivity by those around Jovan Belcher could have prevented Saturday’s events.  Chances are it wouldn’t have mattered.  But the lesson is that we should all be more attentive to the people whose lives are intertwined with ours, through our families or our friends or our places of work.  We enter and exit this world alone, but we are in between those moments part of a broad and complex fabric that both provides us with support and commands it from us.

Let’s remember that the next time — and every time — we’re more worried about interacting with someone who isn’t in the room than someone who is.

36 responses to “Brady Quinn’s poignant comments on relationships

  1. I was also very impressed with Quinn’s comments and perspective. For him to bring such levity to such a tragic scenario makes me feel guilty for some disparaging perceptions I’ve had in the past about his character.

    All this just goes to show we really don’t know these guys, or what they are capable of….good or bad.

    Thanks for bringing attention to what he said Florio.

  2. Class act. As a Broncos fan I always respected Brady. Hopefully he sticks somewhere as a player. In regards to this tragedy, I pray for everyone to work through this. Not sure how the parties involved in the game were able to play on Sunday but much respect.

  3. Those comments were great, I heard a clip of them. It was also fantastic when he said yesterday how a big thing will be for them to set up some kind of trust for the baby so she has some type of stability.

  4. Never really cared for Quinn but I was blown away by the thoughtfulness and sincerity of his comments.
    Technology has become a cult fetish for far too many people. I have relatives that would rather text than talk. We have become a land of data processors. Kudos to Brady for noticing.

  5. The problem is, we are all fractured people to some extent. Our insecurities prevent us from probing deeper into others, even when we see tell tale signs.

    More importantly, when we are confused, hurting and at wits end, we retreat into ourselves as well.

    We can be so broken, that we are doing everything we can to keep up the facade of normalcy. We try to fool others as we do ourselves into thinking we control what goes on around us.

    Every one is a victim in this situation.


  6. I think his point spot on in so many ways.

    I also believe that it is interesting in our society that because an NFL player committed this action it is being seen as a tragedy and something that could be prevented. However, what many are failing to talk about and understand is that domestic violence is far more prevalent in modern day society, and the intense variable of DV can lead to action like this…which are not doubt tragic, but also not always talked about.

  7. I have with depression and I’m beating it because of people like Brady Quinn. I came out to the world on social media about my struggles and was surprised and touched about some of the messages I received. I can’t tell you how much it means to me when people really care and want to know, how I’m doing and ask an in depth question not just a ‘how are you’ ‘good’. When I say depression, I mean suicidal thoughts and almost action. But today I couldn’t be better because of the support of loved ones.

    You can never say that the tragedy could have been avoided or what caused it. But I can say this the world needs more people to be like BQ speaking out and using there platform/fame for awareness. Nothing but good can come from this. Thanks for posting this Florio!

  8. We live in a world where not feeling anything is considered cool. Having emotions and feelings deeper than your average small talk is frowned upon.

  9. I’m ambivalent regarding the success of the Chiefs in general–don’t like or hate them especially–but I’ll root for them with Brady. He’s always deserved a better set of circumstances than football has given him. His comments suggest he has the maturity and intelligence to put that in perspective.

    Hopefully he can help his teammates as much off the field as he did on it this week…

  10. Brady Quinn reveals his inner philosopher…. Very well stated, Mr. Quinn.

  11. His career trajectory hasnt fared too well so far, but Brady Quinn is still making Notre Dame proud he’s an alumni with his character off the field.

  12. Im a Browns fan an this kid cld of been a productive QB but be didnt have a fighting chance with our ownership an Denver had Tebow an it might be to late in KC but he is right on about hes post game comments today well said Quinn.

  13. Mike: I will be printing this out at well and spreading the word. The more people that hear Quinn’s message, the better society could be for all of us.

  14. Amen, Brady.

    These social networks have left young people unable to communicate or even socialize in person.

    THis just in “online friends” aren’t real friends.

  15. I know now after hearing Quinn’s statement that I will slow down a bit and pay closer attention to my surroundings and whoever is near.

  16. Well stated. Deep, thoughtful and very sincere words on relationships that show a depth of thought no commonly found anywhere, let alone by athletes.

    Kind of explains his play. His deep thinking probably diminishes his ability to throw accurately.

  17. After what I saw and heard from Brady yesterday, it looks like he has turned the corner as a man and a football player.

  18. BQ’s Statement is so much on point that I felt it necessary to give it props, yet he left absolutely nothing for me to add in the comment…. COMPLETELY well said, Brady.

  19. Sounds a lot like Lou Holtz. Great human being with a true appreciation for relationships with actual people (except Mark May), not electronic devices. Must be an Irish thing. go ND

  20. I must admit that Brady Quinn is an absolute joke when it comes to being a starting NFL quarterback. But having watched what I could stomach of that ‘game’ vs. the Panthers and hearing his post game comments, I must say this…

    Brady Quinn is an absolute joke when it comes to being a starting NFL quarterback.

  21. That is some truth there.

    Watched my 16 year old and a friend sitting on opposite ends of our couch texting each other and some friends. Took both phones away for an hour and sat and talked with them both until I figured they were as uncomfortable as they were going to get. Im pretty sure I made my point based on our conversation.

    It’s easy to get wrapped up in our problems. They are persoanl and immediate. This makes it difficult to see the struggles that others, even those close to us, are going through.

    I’ve explanined to my children that our personal struggles will still be there to be dealt with and overcome tomorrow, but today you may be able to make a difference in someones life by actually caring about who they are, how they are and how they are doing.

    And to nfldtw, hang in ther man. It is never easy, but it does get better.

  22. A Notre Dame Grad, he actually uses his education in his life unlike others. It’s the word we live in….the lol, smiley face, #hashtag world, In a sense I think the world is getting dumber

  23. I felt the same way after watching him speak. What a guy. I always had a different impression of Quinn. Didn’t think he was this deep.

    After reading that long article in the NYT about that undrafted rookie on the Falcons, these words ring truer. He said that he wouldn’t ever ask a vet lineman go hang out after work or anything, because these guys have lives. Quinn’s words should be heeded. How can you get in the foxhole with guys you don’t want to try to get to know?

  24. I watched Brady Quinn’s comments on Football Night in America, and I was just taken aback by how dead-on he was. Social media and technology can be more of a curse than a blessing for people not equipped to deal with them. Makes me glad to still have a ‘dumbphone’. I’ll remember these comments going forward

  25. yeah, I’m sure if there were no “smart-phones” this tragedy would have never happened…*groan*….are some of you people for real?…If you really need an Athlete to put life into perspective for you…wow…you’ve got bigger things to worry about

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