Ayanbadejo now says four gay players aren’t considering coming out

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Recently, free-agent linebacker Brendon Ayanbadejo has been backpedaling more than a cornerback.

After suggesting this his support for same-sex marriage was a factor in his release by the Ravens, Ayanbadejo quickly said it wasn’t.  Now, not long after explaining that four gay players are considering coming out at the same time, Ayanbadejo says they aren’t.

Via Outsports.com, that was the upshot of Ayanbadejo’s Friday night appearance with Anderson Cooper of CNN.

“No, actually, what it is is, is there are organizations I’m in contact with, and there are individuals I’m in contact with and collectively we know of some gay players,” Ayanbadejo said when asked if he knows the names of the four gay players who are considering coming out.  “And these players, some of them are anonymous, some of them we know who they are, but their identity is super secret and nobody wants to reveal who they are, and some of them don’t want to reveal who they are, rightfully so because it’s entirely up to them what they are going to do.

“What we want to facilitate is getting them all together so they can lean on each other, so they can have a support group.  And potentially it’s possible, it’s fathomable, that they could possibly do something together, break a story together.”

Apart from Ayanbadejo’s chronic inability to get his facts straight, he has an increasingly obvious desire to see one or more gay players come out.  Gay players wrestling with this intensely personal decision easily could perceive that they are merely pawns in a much broader agenda being driven by straight players and/or members of the media who believe that the time has come for closeted gay players to be openly gay.

As former NFL player Wade Davis, who is openly gay, tells Outsports.com, “The problem is that you have straight people speaking on the behalf of these closeted gay athletes, instead of letting the gay athletes speak for themselves.”

There’s a fine line between providing support and applying pressure.  While having multiple gay players come out at once would reduce the distraction created by one gay player coming out, if none of them choose to come out, that’s their business.

Ultimately, we believe people should be allowed to be who they are, and who they choose to be.  That includes straight, gay, and closeted.  If a gay player simply doesn’t want to come out, that’s his prerogative — and no one gay or straight should be trying to get him to do something he doesn’t want to do.

108 responses to “Ayanbadejo now says four gay players aren’t considering coming out

  1. in 2 yrs who will even remember this guy played football. His career is toast and he is doing the ‘chad johnson/terrel owens’ thing to keep his name in the press hoping for another shot.
    he’s not getting one and just who the hell does this guy think he is speaking for an entire group of people? his babbling has produced nothing positive and he isnt (at least he isnt claiming to be) even part of the group.
    his opinion means zilch

  2. Someones sexuality should not be this big of a deal.The idiots above me are Mikes sheep providing the exact judgemental reaction he desires.

  3. Mr. Davis is correct. The problem is that even though straight players and media reps (i.e. Florio) are just trying to support everyone’s right to be themselves, they are inadvertently applying pressure to gay players to come out. Take a break and let them speak up if they want to, and stay quiet if they don’t.

  4. Maybe Elaine from Seinfeld got a hold of them and “converted” them. What’s that? Elaine is a fictitious character from a show? Well, I’m beginning to think THIS is all fiction. Tired of it. Stick to football.

  5. I follow pro football as a respite from the politics that otherwise consume. He advocated for same sex marriage in Maryland, which became law, now he is advocating for gay players to come out. Why doesn’t he mind his own effing business? Those players are big boys and can make up their own minds. They don’t need a washed up NFL player trying to create a career after football to make decisions for them. As a Ravens fan I’m glad they cut him; not because he supports LGBT issues, but because he uses my diversion from reality as a means to advance his political agenda.

  6. This story is getting stale. It’s gone on for a long time and lost the impact it would have done if they just came out and said it. Now everything has to be orchestrated into a show.

    Then again, I’m straight, white, and male. Soon I’ll be a freak. I’m already considered evil.

  7. I am so tired of this guy he obviously has something at stake with this whole gay thing I would bet money this guy is bi or gay himself. I am tired of hearing and reading about this a persons sexuality is that persons business nobody else’s so why do they feel they have to let the world know.

  8. This guy’s character and credibility is slowly coming to light. Watch for the LGBTQ ppl slowly begin distancing themselves from this flake. Can we be done with this hard up for attention loser already? The 2013 draft can’t come soon enough.

  9. Tho dude should really just come out already and stop talking!! He tries to throw other people in his gay circle!! NOBODY CARES!! You won’t get signed cuz you bring this stupid ish up everyday!!

  10. Who cares? If you worry about being accepted, don’t make such a big deal. I would think its not a big deal now a days.

  11. After finishing the article, I had to double check its author. The analysis and conclusion are diametrically opposed to those written previously on the subject by the same individual. Curious.

  12. This guy has lost all credibility. Wish he would just shut up and play football. If he wants to get into politics to push his personal agenda then that’s what he should do. Mike, can you please focus this site on football topics and not progressive liberal causes.

    Thanks. Your readers would appreciate it.

  13. clarkwgrizz says:
    Apr 7, 2013 12:30 PM
    Mr. Davis is correct. The problem is that even though straight players and media reps (i.e. Florio) are just trying to support everyone’s right to be themselves, they are inadvertently applying pressure to gay players to come out. Take a break and let them speak up if they want to, and stay quiet if they don’t.

    Exactly. Perfect.
    This post should accompany all future similar stories about this subject. Everybody shut up until one of these guys decides.

  14. Can we get off this Ayanbadejo for a while, tired of reading this stuff from a former back up.

  15. When you decide to lay with another man for pleasure, you basically are saying you don’t give a damn about what people think about you. So if you know that is what you want in your life, why be ashamed of it unless you know it is wrong.

  16. All these articles about gays Floho. If you want to come out of the closet we really dont care, but how about some football news?

  17. Now that he’s proven to be an inaccurate source who is no longer under the employ of the NFL, I expect no further quotes from him.

  18. Let’s see … does being gay make you a better (or worse) football player …. ?? Didn’t think so ….. so who cares. This dude’s 15 minutes of fame are up.

  19. Like all liberals, they make up facts to support their argument and end up instead arguing based on emotion and “feelings”.

    Just shut up and entertain us on the field, no one cares what you think off of it.

  20. this guy has just replaced rex ryan and jerry jones (for now) as the most annoying guy in football.. its starting to become clear he has an agenda of his own that the gay athletes arent behind much (no pun intended)

    this guy needs to shut up about it and go away when they want to come out they will.

  21. Again? This is not news. Most people don’t care one way or the other. Given the level of apathy on this issue, I find it amazing that gay football players are on just about every sports news medium. Personally, my view is that if a gay player comes out or stays closeted it doesn’t effect me in any way. Therefore, I couldn’t care less.

  22. For the last several days all media outlets have been saying that four gay NFL players are going to come out. Now we know it was all a lie. We won’t be hearing about this in the media, though.

  23. …and this concludes our daily update on why openly gay players won’t be a distraction in the NFL

  24. Why should football players be discussing their sexual preferences in the first place. It really Should not affect what they do on the football field.. I am a physician in a community in Florida who is straight with a wife and two children. Some of my coworkers Are obviously gay. They come to functions with their partners at our medical center They are frequently seen dining out together. Many are my patients and friends. I don’t discuss my sexual activities with my wife with them and they don’t discuss their sexual activities with me either. No one really cares. We don’t talk about sexual issues because we no longer are in high school. Mr. linebacker just wants to stay relevant as long as he can.

  25. Man, aren’t you just waiting for when the first courageous polygamists come out? And then perhaps those brave players in secret group marriages will be next. Maybe by then we’ll have a real commissioner like Jerry Springer We can only hope that this site keeps right on top of it.

  26. I can see Florio running to his laptop every time he hears anything about these mystery gay players. Then he begins to write the same story over and over about a bunch of non existent news.

  27. This is a pretty biased report. First, two awkward statements to the press do not make a “chronic” inability to get the facts right. Second, I watched Brendon’s interview on MSNBC, and he, indeed, said that he was “in talks” with four guys, and he talked about the possibility of coming out on the same day to take the pressure off. The press, especially bloggers ran with this as a done deal. Third, any member of the LGBT community–NFL players included–understand that this is not Brendon’s agenda, and that he’s there only to assist. They also understand that coming out is so much harder unless a supportive environment has been created, first, and that’s what Brendon wants to do. Unfortunately, I agree with the person who said, “Klewe!”, because he’s more media savvy than Brendon and can do a better job of dealing with the hounds in the media.

  28. Before you start yelling for Ayanbadejo to shut up already, lets use our brains and think…

    1. Who wrote the story? He didn’t, he just spoke.
    2. Why are you reading it?

  29. This guy must become Kevin Ware’s leg. You know how CBS wouldn’t show it? The media needs to not repeat anything this goofball has to say.

  30. I feel like this clown is making it harder on gay players. Why are gay players supposed to follow his agenda? Just because Brandon wants a gay player to come out, doesn’t mean it’s the right time. When a gay player decides on his own to come out, then it will be the right time. Until then Brandon is just being a wannabe human rights activist. He has never came out of the closet and he shouldn’t be telling people it will be easier in a group. He needs to get lost and let the actual gay players make the decisions and headlines…… When the time is right.

  31. If Mr Ayanbadejo thinks his little snippets of “inside information” are helping to make the NFL more relevant in the mainstream, he is terribly misinformed. Hard core fans are waiting with high blood pressure for the draft to start. Casual fans are paying attention to the hoops, pucks and baseball. The merely curious would be all agog for two days once the announcement was made. The only ones who have any truly sincere interest in this coming to pass, are gays themselves.

    That I believe is where the disconnect exists. The ex-Raven has been caught up in the euphoria surrounding the “coming out”, being generated by the gay community and has mis-read this as being “universal. If it doesn’t happen, he too will eventually lose interest.

  32. Why doesn’t HE just come out already?!

    At least when he’s not signed by anyone, he’ll be able play that card and keep his name in the headlines.

  33. Ugh leave your progressive thoughts out if my sports talk. What people do is their business not mine or some cut special teamer who made the Super Bowl about something other than business at hand. I’m sure that’s why he is gone. Harbaugh doesn’t play around. Dude needs to be a pro ,.. Not a progressive

  34. This whole Ayanbadejo thing is getting ridiculous and it’s starting to make me question if he has the noblest intentions or not.

    Doesn’t help the media seems bent on shoving the gay agenda down our throats and if a player uses the word “gay” in a sentence it becomes front page news.

    I come to sports sites to read football news and opinions on the game of football not the conservative or liberal political beliefs of the players that play the game.

  35. You can say that he has no rights to do what he has been doing, but he has people talking and more importantly thinking about how hard it is to be gay in a professional sport. That can only help in our fight for equality. The more honest conversations everyone has about the LGBTQ community, the more people support our rights.

  36. This guy is the biggest idiot. Just shut up let the gay’s speak for themselves. Unless of coarse you are one of the four that chickened out. I don’t understand why it even matters I mean straight people don’t announce they are straight all the time

  37. Coming out is a huge deal. Pre-empting these moves (whether true or not) is a huge disservice to the said-gay players who will make their announcements when they are ready. This is something they can’t be forced into by Brendon Ayanbadejo, Chris Kluwe, or anyone from the NFL.

  38. Wade Davis never played in the NFL. Preseason and NFL Europe don’t really count.

  39. So why doesnt BA just come out and get it over with, does he really think we dont know hes one of the 4? He doesnt relize it but he blew it for his fellow gays when he said he got cut because of it, now teams are gonna stay away cause that will now be the new race card when a gay player gets cut, way to go BA, you thought you were helping but you ruined it.

  40. Let me know when the next election is for the spokesman for gay rights, because I would like to elect someone else. In 100 years, everyone is going to wonder why everyone cared so much about other peoples bedroom preference. What is next? overweight peoples rights? Honestly I could see it happening. Whether we realize it or not, overweight people are treated with less respect it seems. instead of dividing everyone into categories, wouldnt it be better if we just made all this not a big deal…by making it a big deal, we are basically saying the fact that someone is different is a big deal…and that probably is more divisive tham the difference in the first place.

  41. Good for the Ravens for releasing him. This guy was not focused enough on his job, and that’s the only thing that matters here.

  42. He doesn’t want to be the only player to announce that he’s gay. That’s it plain and simple. Lets drop it now and move on

  43. Ahh…I was wondering when we’re going to get our daily gay updates from Brendon.

    His eyebrows are well groomed.

  44. It should be obvious by now that with his unusually fervent advocacy Ayanbadejo, himself, is gay? I think this goes way beyond mere liberalization. Read the tea leaves.

  45. I am being to think his guy is so confused he doesn’t know if he is straight or gay. He must have some type of agenda to keep coming out talking about gay rights. His career in the NFL is done. Maybe he is looking to be the spokesman for gays and lesbians.

  46. I watch football because I love the game. What the players do in their private time has no effect on the play, and is absolutely uninteresting to me. I understand that because we live in a time of 24 hour news, filler stories must be generated, but I wish other fans like me would ban together and begin to boycott “news organizations” that continue to bolster this type of boorish garbage to forward an agenda. Put this on the political page if you wish, but stop subjecting football fans to this tripe. Should the powers that be decide to censor my post, please at least offer the relevance to this continual vain of “reporting” to the football fan.

  47. The only people who care about this subject are the pillow-biters themselves. People love football because its a mental vacation from the political crap we are faced with everyday. PLEASE don’t ruin football with a Botox injection of politics!

  48. Florio,

    Let’s make a deal. Let’s say that after today, PFT readers agree to stop taking the bait by reading and commenting on this topic. Once you see our drop in interest, will you follow suit and stop constantly posting about it?

  49. Thanks for posting Wade Davis’s quote about straight people trying to speak for gay people. Clearly I’m not the only one who’s beginning to question Ayanbadejo taking ownership of this issue. Many of us are civil rights advocates, but this guy has become so involved in this topic, that I can’t help wondering what’s in it for him–and fearing for those who might have confidentially shared with him their sexual orientation. He seems obsessed enough to start outing people if they don’t make an announcement themselves.

  50. If they come out, they come out. If they don’t then they don’t. It’s their choice what they want to do. This doesn’t need to have daily stories done on it for crying out loud!!!

  51. Leave it to a Viking fan to turn a good dialect into and anti-Green Bay shot. Read a book, watch the news, have an intelligent comment or don’t post anything.

  52. Who cares..this guy has more than his fifteen minutes..if he supported traditional marriage I guarantee we wouldn’t be hearing from him. Finally pushing this liberal agenda on our society is an obsession of some. Sadly we get to see football being bombarded with these dopey stories..

  53. I think Ayanbadejo and Kluwe should mind their own business…unless they are 2 of the queer players thinking of coming out.. Let the gay players speak for the gay players…if they aren’t already

  54. it is all about attention. There are states who recognize civil unions, hence gay rights. There are anti discrimination laws etc. This whole movement is only about redefining a word and self centered attention. Why the hell else would an article be written about a former special teams player?

  55. “You must come out. Come out… to your parents… I know that it is hard and will hurt them but think about how they will hurt you in the voting booth! Come out to your relatives… come out to your friends… if indeed they are your friends. Come out to your neighbors… to your fellow workers… to the people who work where you eat and shop… come out only to the people you know, and who know you. Not to anyone else. But once and for all, break down the myths, destroy the lies and distortions. For your sake. For their sake. ”

    –Harvey Milk, 1978

  56. Until now, I haven’t read any of the Progressive Football Talk stories (Redskins name change, gay players), and I skimmed this one. Is Ayanbadejo the mouthpiece for gay players or something? Seems like he’s a self-promoting tool to me.

  57. I agree 1,000 percent with the last graph of Mike Florio’s post: “People should be allowed to be who they are, and who they choose to be. That includes straight, gay, and closeted. If a gay player simply doesn’t want to come out, that’s his prerogative — and no one gay or straight should be trying to get him to do something he doesn’t want to do.”

  58. This FORMER player is just trying to get headlines.Go sit on the couch loser-your career is OVER.

  59. As former NFL player Wade Davis, who is openly gay, tells Outsports.com, “The problem is that you have straight people speaking on the behalf of these closeted gay athletes, instead of letting the gay athletes speak for themselves.”

    Exactly. This is their business and not ours. Ayanbadejo needs to shut up. He’s a bore.

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