Doug Marrone isn’t sure Marcell Dareus gets it

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As the Bills try to process a pair of recent arrests by Pro Bowl defensive lineman Marcell Dareus, coach Doug Marrone tries to resolve a fairly important questions about Dareus.

Does he get it?

Adam Schein of SiriusXM Mad Dog Radio posed that one to Marrone on Thursday, and Marrone was a little stumped.

“That’s a good question,” Marrone said. “That’s a good question, whether he gets it or not. You say all the right things but then your actions are going to speak louder than your words. We all understand that obviously, and we’re aware, he’s made some poor decisions lately. I’m working with him. He’s dealing with stuff, too.”

Marrone doesn’t want to make Dareus into a victim, but Marrone recognizes that Dareus has had a rough life.

“I told him, ‘You are responsible for your actions.’ And that’s the same with everyone,” Marrone said. “Like I said it before, I believe in this kid, I really do. And I really believe it is part of my job description to help these young men. Marcell is 24 years old. These rookies that are coming in are 22. I’ll be blunt about it, and I’m not blaming a lot of things, but it goes back to, when the NCAA went back to the 40-hour rule, we have a Collective Bargaining Agreement, you know, it’s proven, even when I was in college, these athletes have performed a lot better academically when it was during the football season than they did in the offseason. . . . We have to take advantage and help them [in] the time that they are with us. I think there is a lot to do. Now, with Marcell, we’re working on things, I’m heavily involved with it, and we’re doing everything we possibly can to make sure that he can make better decisions. We obviously know he’s an outstanding ballplayer and he’s got a big heart and is a great person. He just has to learn and make better decisions.”

The situation creates a dilemma for Marrone, who’s trying to reconcile the necessity to win with issues that extend beyond football.

“I never wanted to be that guy that exploited players just to win,” Marrone said. “[W]hen it is all said and done with and it is over, you have to look in the mirror and say, ‘Hey, I lived my life. Did I do the right thing?’ Like I said, I’ve gotta help these players to be better men, to be better husbands, I just believe in that. And I’ve got to win at the same time and you’re right, that balance is difficult. But it is what I do. I enjoy it.”

It’s an admirable mindset, but here’s the reality. If he doesn’t win enough games to placate those who employ him, Marrone will lose the ability to try to shape players into better men.

And as Marrone tries to make his players into better men, only the best players will get to stay on the team. If Dareus wasn’t so talented, the franchise wouldn’t tolerate the distractions. So, basically, the guys who can best help Marrone and any coach win will be the players who get the benefit of being molded into better men.

Ultimately, molding the best players into better men helps the team win, by ensuring that the best players will not do things that will keep them from being able to play. That’s the way for Marrone to continue to be in position to help future players become better men.

21 responses to “Doug Marrone isn’t sure Marcell Dareus gets it

  1. Well the good news is that I’m not here to pile on the problems, the IT department assures he still is able to receive his direct deposits, so at least that system is functioning perfectly fine.

  2. In the Training Field House, the Bill’s have a saying that Marrone asked them to post. It says “Don’t confuse effort with results”. If Dareus is trying to be a thorn in the franchise’s side then he is successful.

  3. “It’s an admirable mindset, but here’s the reality. If he doesn’t win enough games to placate those who employ him, Marrone will lose the ability to try to shape players into better men.”

    That’s assuming the Buffalo ownership doesn’t support such nobility. They probably don’t but you’re assuming too much.

  4. So sick and tired of the excuse “he had a hard upbringing”. If anything coming from a hard back ground should make a person work harder and appreciate & take hold of the opportunities they receive.
    This guy doesn’t seem to have the ability or willingness to learn from mistakes.

  5. I feel bad for the guy. Kudos to Marrone for being a great off-the field coach. I’ve liked this guy from day one in Buff.

    Signed

    Ravens guy

  6. I have to say when NFL coaches have to make these over grown man children into responsible adults then they really have problems. How come our military men and women who are much younger in some cases are already more mature than a 26 year old man?,What BS..I am so disgusted by today’s players. It is an indictment on college athletics and our society as a whole that coaches are showing men what is right and wrong..

  7. Kudos to Marrone for recognizing young people are prone to making poor decisions, sometimes repeatedly. That doesn’t make them bad people, it just means they haven’t matured enough yet to make better decisions.

    It’s admirable of Marrone for taking an interest in his players personal lives and wanting to help them become better human beings and to live happier lives. Not a lot of coaches have that type of integrity.

    Of course as was pointed out, if Marcel wasn’t a good player they likely would have cut him already. But still, it shows Marrone views his players as people not just bodies on a field, and it shows he genuinely cares about his players well being.

  8. You should learn to keep your moth shut Doug. That’s in house conversation that you’re airing out over the radio waves. Maybe you don’t get it either.

  9. Stop paying the millions to these (kids) men and let them WORK for it then they might get it!!!

  10. People don’t realize that he lost both his parents at early adolescence and was the man of the house at the age of 12 or 13. That is life altering stress that he went through. I was blessed to grow up in a great, stable household and when I was in my early 20’s I made some decisions that I shake my head about now. This young man as well as a lot of young players trying to handle celebrity, money, and hangers on at a young age should get a little slack. That being said the slack runs out at late twenties

  11. We want our players to be good citizens, we all make exceptions when the individual has exceptional talent. He’s not the same moron Lynch or Travis Henry were, hope Dareus matures, it’s tough losing your family when you’re young.

    Glad to have a badass defense again.

    Hey Ay! Hey Ay!

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