Jay Feely says prom photo with handgun was a joke

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Former NFL kicker and CBS broadcaster Jay Feely created a stir on social media by posting a photo of his daughter, her prom date, Feely, and one very specific other thing.

The thing was a handgun, and the caption was this, via ESPN.com: “Wishing my beautiful daughter and her date a great time at prom #BadBoys.”

After the tweet and the photo prompted a reaction from those who believe that making light of gun violence is inappropriate in a current climate that consists of school shootings and other attacks with firearms in public places, Feely posted a clarification: “The prom picture I posted was obviously intended to be a joke. My Daughter has dated her boyfriend for over a year and they knew I was joking. I take gun safety seriously (the gun was not loaded and had no clip in) and I did not intend to be insensitive to that important issue.”

Humor is subjective. For example, I could say that the kid shouldn’t worry because Feely’s vision isn’t very good. Some would think that’s funny. Some wouldn’t.

I also could say that far more offensive than the presence of the gun is the fact that Feely is apparently standing on his tippy-toes so that he’ll appear to be taller than the dude his daughter is dating. Some would think that’s funny. Some wouldn’t.

Regardless, every attempt at humor should take into account the broader subject matter. Given the current national discourse and the challenges inherent to stopping mass shootings (especially at schools), Feely’s foray into prop comedy probably should have entailed a little more foresight regarding whether that was the best way to make his point.

98 responses to “Jay Feely says prom photo with handgun was a joke

  1. Gimme a break.
    You gotta be kidding me.
    Where does it end?
    Fathers have been joking about this forever.
    Please make it stop PC police

  2. As a retired detective, who has had a few daughters go to numerous proms, this was dumnb. I get the joke. Touch my daughter and…

    But most of you don’t understand that the criminal mind works 24/7. He just announced that he owns at least one handgun. Stupid. Why do you think cops get their cars broken into all the time? Because every once in a while guys do leave their guns in their car.

    I’m not anti-defensive weapons. I am anti-stupid. Get a Safe, have a plan and don’t tell the world you own a gun.

    I love the ‘Snowflakes’ comment. Have any of you had a friend murdered with a stolen gun? I have. THREE. Not to mention all the non-friends we cleaned up off the street.
    I am not even remotely a ‘snowflake’ or a ‘libtard’, quite the opposite.

    Announcing to the world and posting that photo was braindead.

  3. Get off off your PC high horse. Give me a break. A father protecting his daughters innocence with a gun has been a joke forever. This is nothing that people haven’t seen before. It’s obviously a joke, and it’s hardly offensive there is absolutely no story here at all. #manup #senseofhumor #pussifcationofamerica

  4. Oh my God the wussification of America continues. Maybe he should have put a prom dress on, then the liberal media would make him one of their darlings. Amnesty International could give him an award just like Kaepernick.

  5. I have had a friend murdered by gunfire. I refuse to let my life be affected in that I can’t see the comedy in this picture. It’s a joke and not a bad one. Politics is weakening this country and will continue to.

  6. So many of our cultural problems are present in this scenario:
    #1 everyone is offended by everything
    #2 Everyone feels entitled to inject their own feelings into someone else’s matter
    #3 Our whole life must be shared on social media
    #4 People lost the ability to think subjectively

    If you’re willing to apologize for something you posted, that means you should have been smart enough not to post it in the first place. Personally I don’t understand why he needs to apologize. If he didn’t intend offend anyone, than it’s the recipients choice to be offended

  7. So stupid. Don’t worry about it Jay. That has been a standing joke since the invention of firearms. Before that it was an axe, or hammer or whatever. Let the idiots with no humor just get over themselves.

  8. It. Was. Simply. A. JOKE!!! My goodness what type of world are we really living in?? This ultra-walk-on-eggshell-tiptoe-around-everything-super-PC garbage has got to stop. Please. Just stop it. It was clearly a joke. Like someone said earlier, fathers have been joking about this forever and forever. If anyone and I mean if ANYONE looks at Jay Feelys post and starts conspiring criminal thoughts based off of said photo, they are in desperate need of psychiatric help. Once again it was a joke. Geesh what a soft world we live in.

  9. It is sad that, what is meant as a joke or a colloquial expression, suddenly, is judged by some standard of an individuals belief structure. Every action or word is immediately condemned because it hurts someone’s sensitivities.
    I raised three daughters, the last just turned 19. I met every new date at the door with my shotgun in hand, “cleaning” it. That was the biggest joke in the high school. They were teased…errr…”bullied” about it constantly.
    People need to get a life and recognize a joke for what it is, not what it can be made into.

  10. I have no problem with his mindset. But to post this to social media, seems completely stupid. Seriously, does he think anyone cares his daughter is going to a prom, along with millions of other teenagers. It was simply a way to call attention to himself.

  11. Pearl clutching again, Florio?

    Do people actually want to live in a sterile and culturally stale world? Yeah, humor is subjective but gun crime and murder are down from their peaks in the 90s and it’s clearly less of a problem than the media thinks and reports on. Speaking of subjectivity, one could argue that since ‘gun control measures’ that are being put forward have no hope of stopping mass shootings, that the media is being a mouth piece for gun confiscation and summarily the eroding of the rest of the bill of rights. Everyone should know that in order to cripple the bill of rights, the 2nd has to be gone first, one cannot take speech rights from someone else who is armed. While it’s true the 4th is under heavy attack, it can’t be gone completely until the 2nd is.

    Those on the side of common sense are winning the culture war, but it’s not evident to all yet as the high priests of PC culture(entertainers-media) won’t tell you about it.

  12. I will echo the many (correct) sentiments here about the PC obsessed, soy boy outrage at a picture most of us immediately recognized to be a joke..one most fathers with daughters and boyfriends of girls with protective fathers can relate to!

    There is some truth is jest. Feely knows and likes the kid, but if he ever hurts her…..

    I think the outrage is over the inability of most leftists to relate, even in an intellectual or empathetic way to violent conflict. They do not understand it and most of the time have no ability to use it….they will claim it is over mass shootings or whatever, but this has nothing to do with that. They are just secretly jealous they are too weak to protect their loved ones and/or their prom date was a beast! The feminists are just mad their father’s didn’t care enough to protect them….or they didnt give them enough hugs…

  13. Been in a gunfight? I’ve been in two and been shot at by a sniper to boot. Killed anyone? I have. He had a stolen gun.

    Most of you see in black and white and it amazes me that my take is NOT anti handgun NOT that it wasn’t a joke but a PUBLIC figure showing the world he had a gun. It’s about the criminal mind that almost NONE of you have a single clue about, unless you are one or have experienced what I have.

    Good grief. The world is not black and white, there are many angles that some will never get…

  14. This is why government was formed, to keep ignorant public (or let’s just be honest, downright stupid people), from overeacting to certain situations and taking action (usually destructive). Where we lack the most security is in social media, which will be the downfall of this society.

  15. Feely may be stupid (the father with the gun is an old joke) but don’t worry. If he were to try and shoot the gun, he would miss wide right anyway.

  16. Hilarious and well-done. If you haven’t looked at the picture yet, try it. Their faces are perfectly scripted for the joke that this picture is intended to convey. It’s not impossible to find this funny as hell, and still lament the tragedies of gun violence.

  17. While these types of pictures are always quick to receive criticism from the media, the lack of criticism from the same critics in the media towards the people in Hollywood on the steady stream of images of guns and gun violence in movies and television is not without notice.

  18. notlistinin says:
    April 22, 2018 at 2:13 pm
    Pearl clutching again, Florio?

    Do people actually want to live in a sterile and culturally stale world? Yeah, humor is subjective but gun crime and murder are down from their peaks in the 90s and it’s clearly less of a problem than the media thinks and reports on. Speaking of subjectivity, one could argue that since ‘gun control measures’ that are being put forward have no hope of stopping mass shootings, that the media is being a mouth piece for gun confiscation and summarily the eroding of the rest of the bill of rights. Everyone should know that in order to cripple the bill of rights, the 2nd has to be gone first, one cannot take speech rights from someone else who is armed. While it’s true the 4th is under heavy attack, it can’t be gone completely until the 2nd is.

    Those on the side of common sense are winning the culture war, but it’s not evident to all yet as the high priests of PC culture(entertainers-media) won’t tell you about it.
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    Perfectly stated. Great post.

  19. There’s nothing wrong with his joke.
    What’s wrong is Social Media.
    His joke was never designed for ANYBODY to view.
    But because Social Media actively disrespects Privacy in its entirety this is what happens.
    Hooray for Technology.
    Hooray for Progress.
    This is SO freaking obvious.

  20. I used to keep a baseball bat over my front door with a plaque reading “Boyfriend Alignment Tool”

  21. The headline says it all for me. The fact he has to come out and say he was joking is ridiculous. There’s something that can be funny about every single thing. As long as it’s a good joke.

  22. Whoa whoa whoa? A baseball bat???? I have friends that are baseballs and they are murdered with these weapons everyday. I am so offended. Please don’t make jokes about baseball bats.

  23. It. Was. Simply. A. JOKE!!! My goodness what type of world are we really living in?? This ultra-walk-on-eggshell-tiptoe-around-everything-super-PC garbage has got to stop. Please. Just stop it. It was clearly a joke. Like someone said earlier, fathers have been joking about this forever and forever. If anyone and I mean if ANYONE looks at Jay Feelys post and starts conspiriyng criminal thoughts based off of said photo, they are in desperate need of psychiatric help. Once again it was a joke. Geesh what a soft world we live in.

  24. PLEASE Jay – tell us that awful white belt was a joke too.

    Apparently he was going for a Rodney Dangerfield look from Caddyshack?

    If he was trying to intimidate the kid it was an Epic Fail from the moment he slipped that belt on!

  25. I long ago realized that the socialists love to make up imaginary constitutional rights (“free” healthcare, illegal alien “immigration”) while denying the actual rights set forth in the constitution (free speech, right to bear arms, freedom of assembly, freedom of religion). The next step is not voting for them.

  26. I’ll reflect on the guy saying cop cars are always broken into because of the probability of a gun.
    Without directly questioning this claim, there are a great many homes NOT broken into because the owner has announced in some way ‘I HAVE A GUN.’

  27. Lighten up “backintheday99”. Oh, now the criminals know where to get a gun. Look out Jay, thousands of criminals are headed to your house. They now know where there is a gun located within the US.

  28. Knock Knock…
    Who’s there?
    Orange.
    Orange who?
    Orange you glad I didn’t say banana…ah…ah…ah….ah I’m sorry banana. It was a joke! I apologize to anyone I offended & to all the other tree fruits if they felt offended by the joke or felt left out. I’ll try to do better next time.

  29. Its the ultimate joke, its been in so many movies i cant count them about the boyfriend meeting the family. Pretty sure will smith did it in one of the cops movies. Snowflakes need to friggin relax. Getting ridiculous

  30. @backintheday99 – yes, if you have a daughter, you sort of understand, but 99 is right. The only time someone should see it is just before you have to use it, as in seeing the big hole at the end. I hope it never happens.
    I like Jay when he was a Falcon. He went downfield and not only made the tackle a lot of the time, he put the hurt on them. I was a big fan.

  31. Jay Feely should have said something to the effect of “It was a joke. If you don’t like it, too bad. I apologize to no one”

  32. I tend to lean liberal on social issues but this article is just plain out of touch with reality

  33. Come on, it’s an old joke. The pistol was kind of funny. What was really funny though was the white belt Jay was wearing-that was funny!

    #borninfl-schooled@michigan

  34. The funniest part to me is that Feely has a daughter old enough to go to the prom. Not many players left in the league who can say that, the old fart!

  35. Yea. Because guns are always funny. The NRA is funded by gun manufacturers, not dues paying members. Anybody should be able to buy an assault rifle… but if you take it off your property it’s 5 years in prison no matter what. How about that?

  36. What Feely did was wrong, he should have never apologized, who cares what others think is offensive, man up!

  37. “Given the current national discourse and the challenges inherent to stopping mass shootings (especially at schools), Feely’s foray into prop comedy probably should have entailed a little more foresight regarding whether that was the best way to make his point.”

    No. It was a joke.

  38. What if Feely’s gun gets out and goes on a killing rampage? Apparently guns have been going out and killing people lately. At least that is what I am seeing in CNN and MSNBC.

  39. The people saying get over themselves should tell those people in Las Vegas who got blown away or those kids in Florida or the parents of those little kids that got blown away or the family members of those church goers in Texas to get over it or etc.

    You idiots don’t seem to realize that you live in a very different world than just 20 years ago. It’s not offending just anybody for the sake of bothering them. It’s offending people and their families who have increasingly actually been through these ordeals, and no that’s not the same as “losing a friend to gun violence.” On a regular basis these days, randomly people are getting shot in public places all over your country. Hey, but let’s make some bomb jokes to people from the Middle East because we have a cool joke to tell when they were witnessing or going through bombings every other day by radicals.

    If you don’t get that some new discretion is needed to the sensitivity of these events happening so frequently since so many people are being affected, I can’t help you with being a horrible person. Their bad, their bullet wounds and loved ones’ deaths crimped your style on some jokes. The horror. The next thing you’re going to tell me is that making plane crash jokes right after a plane crash is in poor taste. Who would have ever known?

  40. The Snowflakes are out Today. I especially love the Self Righteous ones who Lecture everybody that isn’t a Snowflake and Claim to be People that they are not to justify their Snowflakism. Absolutely nothing wrong with what Feely did. This whole story is why Trump got elected and why he will get re-elected. People are sick of fake outrage to push a political agenda.

  41. Its not like the dude posted a picture of himself holding an AR-15 with a caption of: “Going to school” or “Off to the Waffle House”. That’d be pretty awful. This though? Hard to see the outrage, and I’m pretty damn liberal.

  42. Apologize for what and to who? It is nobody’s business and the only ones who are offended are prissy strangers to you. So, go tell them to take a flying leap and for gosh sakes stop apologizing to these less than developed emotionally busy bodies. Liberals are humorless and do not encourage their idiocy by apologizing. Man up.

  43. got blown away or those kids in Florida or the parents of those little kids that got blown away or the family members of those church goers in Texas to get over it or etc.

    You idiots don’t seem to realize that you live in a very different world than just 20 years ago. It’s not offending just anybody for the sake of bothering them. It’s offending people and their families who have increasingly actually been through these ordeals, and no that’s not the same as “losing a friend to gun violence.” On a regular basis these days, randomly people are getting shot in public places all over your country. Hey, but let’s make some bomb jokes to people from the Middle East because we have a cool joke to tell when they were witnessing or going through bombings every other day by radicals.

    If you don’t get that some new discretion is needed to the sensitivity of these events happening so frequently since so many people are being affected, I can’t help you with being a horrible person. Their bad, their bullet wounds and loved ones’ deaths crimped your style on some jokes. The horror. The next thing you’re going to tell me is that making plane crash jokes right after a plane crash is in poor taste. Who would have ever known?

    ==========

    Luckily in MY country we have a Constitution that lays out in English my individual rights. One being Freedom of Speech, saying what I with out fear of government reprisals. Something not even the UK, Germany or France has. Followed by a 2nd Amendment to keep a tyrannical government in check. A tyrannical government run by Progressive thought is the battleground we find ourselves on today. It’s why Trump was elected.

    Take away my 2nd Amendment to then watch the 1st crumble via Progressive authoritarian mob rule. Good luck with that.

  44. I hunt 50 plus days a year, Have several shotguns, riffles, hunting revolvers along with a couple Glocks and AR,s for personal protection. I am a voting supporter of the second amendment. I believe in freedom of speech but also believe that Jay Feely’s ignorance is a threat to all I believe in.

  45. While I get the joke, I don’t think any photo with a handgun is a good idea. What reaction did you expect? Think 2 or 3 times before you post.

  46. I am in absolute shock that this would offend anyone. Its a joke!! The oversensitivity in todays culture is absolutely nauseating.

  47. do you know what’s really bad about this? Now, Feely’s being accused of calling his daughter a possession as he said “my” daughter. The extreme feminists say she has her own beliefs and should not feel like she is Jay’s possession. That is so stupid, just like everything else about the social justice warriors.

  48. I’m so glad I don’t have kids. You think this PC world is soft now… just you wait!

  49. hukdeep says:

    April 23, 2018 at 5:44 am

    Another “tough” guy trying to make up for his shortcomings.
    Real men don’t need guns.
    Yep, im talking to you.
    ——————
    Coming from a tough guy huh?

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