Roy Miller retires from NFL, accuses estranged wife of trying to ruin his career

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Former Buccaneers, Jaguars and Chiefs defensive tackle Roy Miller says he will retire from the NFL rather than try to return after serving a six-game suspension for a domestic violence allegation.

Although Miller did not address any of the specifics of his wife’s accusations, he released a statement on Instagram saying that she wants to ruin his career.

“I am officially retiring from the NFL,” Miller wrote. “Unfortunately my ex is trying everything she can to ruin any opportunity for me to work for my kids. This has caused me much pain. had some interest [from] teams but until the divorce goes through I can’t even contemplate putting a team through the drama.”

The Chiefs cut Miller in November after he was arrested for domestic battery, and he hasn’t played in the NFL since. Last week his estranged wife sought a restraining order against him after saying he ripped the handle off her car door during a dispute over custody of their children.

51 responses to “Roy Miller retires from NFL, accuses estranged wife of trying to ruin his career

  1. There’s at least 3 sides to every story but as a 31 year old journeyman with a DV suspension Miller is ‘retiring’ from a league that wasn’t about to give him another bite at the apple anyway.

  2. “I can’t put teams through the drama”.

    That makes me believe him. As a retired detective, I’ve handled too many DV cases. Most of the time it’s the guy. I go in thinking we shall see but…Anyway, that’s the type of statement that jumps out at people with experience.

    We’ve all dated Psycho B. (1/2 way through dinner #1, it’s grin, bear, pay and run). Marrying one, well…good luck with that.

  3. I wonder who’s telling the truth here. Regardless of how some people feel about this, it’s not victim blaming by wanting to know both sides of the story.

  4. No reason at all for a young man to get married in this day and age. Antiquated tradition.

  5. I’d be thinking “vasectomy” if I were him. A lot of people are not good at selecting a mate and doing the family thing. Why make the same mistake twice? And for those who don’t have any kids yet, a vasectomy can save you from making the same mistake once.

  6. InoffensiveAccountName says:
    July 1, 2018 at 3:05 pm
    No reason at all for a young man to get married in this day and age. Antiquated tradition.
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    Satan says….welcome to HELL… with about 2/3rds of this Country

  7. kcchefs58 says:
    July 1, 2018 at 3:02 pm
    Regardless of how some people feel about this, it’s not victim blaming by wanting to know both sides of the story.
    ————————————

    Or better yet, the elusive 3rd side. You know, the truth.

  8. thrifty says:
    July 1, 2018 at 2:44 pm
    Like most divorces, it’s the guys who lose.
    ————–

    And kids.

    He may or may not be guilty and only they and the kids; if they’re old enough, actually know. After a divorce settlement, the ex-wife tried to get my co-worker fired; misuse of the company car. Even though she and the kids were getting a good chunk from alimony and child support, revenge APPEARED to be more important to her. He only got suspended for a week but how would it have helped her and the kids if he lost his job and no many was coming to them?

  9. kingthielenscourt says:
    July 1, 2018 at 2:40 pm
    He needs professional Help, why would an EX want to interfere with hundreds of thousands of support money for her and the kids?

    WHY?? Because they get psychotic…thats why

  10. It is an all out ugly situation. But I will never understand people putting their personal life stories/issues,whatever on social media. Just retire, no more needs to be said.

  11. He ripped the door handle from her car?
    I think she watches too many cartoons!

  12. In the USA it is supposed to be presumed innocent until proven guilty. In reality, most people who have been arrested or charged with crimes are presumed to be guilty until they can prove their innocence. This case and the Kellen Winslow case are no exception. Many people, including judges, presume that the accused is guilty and they treat the accused accordingly, often denying bail or set it so high that many poor people spend years in jail without being convicted of anything. Families are separated at the border for the same reason. The NFL too often suspend players without any solid evidence of wrongdoing.

  13. thrifty says:
    July 1, 2018 at 2:44 pm
    Like most divorces, it’s the guys who lose
    __________

    Guys lose in custody because the judge asks:

    Who gets the kids ready for school?
    Who prepares the kids meals?
    Who takes off from work to look after sick kids?
    Who takes the kids to the doctor?
    Who helps the kids with home work?
    Who gives the kids a bath?
    Who puts the kids to bed?

    9/10 times it’s mom; because dad earns a pay check and thinks that’s enough. So why would a judge give you custody for child care if you’re not providing child care? Judges just keep the status quo you set up. Mom continues to raise the kids and you continue to be minimally involved and pay the bills. If you can say me to 1/2 those question or split equally you’re not providing child care.

  14. 700levelvet says:
    July 1, 2018 at 3:39 pm
    It is an all out ugly situation. But I will never understand people putting their personal life stories/issues,whatever on social media. Just retire, no more needs to be said.
    ——————————————-
    Yeah, and hire a fixer to keep it hush hush. (It doesn’t always work if your fixer is an idiot, but let’s not go there.)

  15. InoffensiveAccountName says: No reason at all for a young man to get married in this day and age. Antiquated tradition.
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    kingthielenscourt says: Satan says….welcome to HELL… with about 2/3rds of this Country
    ———————————

    That would be “Mr. Satan” to you, kingthielenscourt.

  16. “Who gets the kids ready for school?
    Who prepares the kids meals?
    Who takes off from work to look after sick kids?
    Who takes the kids to the doctor?
    Who helps the kids with home work?
    Who gives the kids a bath?
    Who puts the kids to bed?”

    In my case, the answers to all of those questions were “me” on top of being the primary bread-winner (she worked part-time to have spending money for herself but did not contribute to household expenses). The only exception was when one of the kids got sick, she would take off and stay home with them (if she even had work to begin with).

    She had a “disability” (bi-polar) that she used as an excuse for basically EVERYTHING. Or by extension, would use the medications she was prescribed as an excuse to why she couldn’t wake up early enough to get the kids ready, or couldn’t stay awake/focussed long enough to help with homework, cook dinner, or make preparations for bedtime. The three oldest kids (out of 4) were not biologically mine but their father had no involvment with them, lived a thousand miles away, and paid no support. For six years the kids grew up calling me dad. I was initially awarded full custody of our youngest daughter because she was mine biologically. But despite the other 3 wanting to stay with me, they were taken from me when we split up.

    Then a year later, she filed for custody of our daughter even though she still didn’t work or do anything at all with her life, she married a guy who makes a mid-six-figure salary. She got primary custody on the grounds that she can be there during the day to provide care (daughter is not quite school age yet). Now I get to see my daughter every other weekend and have to drive 120 miles each way to both pick her up and drop her off, and pay child support (which I don’t mind, but I never once pursued CS from her mother).

    Don’t trust the pretty ones. They’re usually crazy and self-entitled.

  17. There should be a law that if you make up abuse charges that you spend a minimum of fifty years in jail so you can experience a life being ruined like you tried to do to someone else.

  18. I don’t know Roy or his story at all

    But I know that my estranged wife did this to my career. She spent over a decade of calling me at work, threatenint to move the kids, take a kids to a cult. She has bipolar an dother issues. This is no joke. I even made 6 figures a few years too. She wasn’t thinking money in a divorce. Because she was unstable and not thinking rationally.

    Again, I can’t soeak for Roy. But I wouldn’t be shocked if that was his case.

  19. orangeraider says:
    July 1, 2018 at 4:42 pm
    get a pre-nup
    have a secret cache of assets
    Get your own lawyer
    ————–
    Pre-nups do not cover alimony or child custody. Pre-nup usually just ensure protection of prior obtained assets, not future gains as a legal couple.

  20. Rapper 50 cent(the proverbial voice of reasoning)I assume. He spoke it best when he said – Marriage is a very bad business deal for a Man..!!

  21. Just because the guy came out with a statement does not mean he’s telling the truth! Most abusers don’t ever take any responsibility. And I’d say he was pretty angry if he could rip a door handle off. Just consider that.

  22. … “Don’t trust the pretty ones. They’re usually crazy and self-entitled.” …

    Hey, Joe Bocc, didn’t you ever hear of the famous Jimmy Soul who sang:
    🎼 🎷🎺
    If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
    Never make a pretty woman your wife.
    So for my personal point of view
    Get an ugly girl to marry you!

  23. I realize alot of guys get the shaft in DV cases but who forced you to marry her in the first place ? if you can’t tell during dating, that there may be serious problems ahead due to the obvious warning signs ( i.e, jealousy, pettiness, constant arguments…etc ) then sorry, either you’re thinking with the wrong head or just a plain dumb ass. out of my 5 best buds, i called all 5 correctly. only 1 relationship is still intact. good and bad times will always come. how you and your wife deal with them is the key. 29 years for me. she is the same person i dated.

  24. I cant for the life me understand why any professional athlete gets married while they are still playing . Their career is short enough, even the best ones are usually retired in their early to mid thirties. Lets face it their career means lots of time in a gym or on a field and traveling away from home for at least a few days a week in season. And the temptation that comes their way does in even the best of them.

  25. All these anecdotal stories from only guys have me perfectly convinced that guys get the short of the stick in life.

    That’s sarcasm.

  26. bam5239
    Jul 1, 2018, 3:54 PM EDT
    thrifty says:
    July 1, 2018 at 2:44 pm
    Like most divorces, it’s the guys who lose
    __________

    Guys lose in custody because the judge asks:

    Who gets the kids ready for school?
    Who prepares the kids meals?
    Who takes off from work to look after sick kids?
    Who takes the kids to the doctor?
    Who helps the kids with home work?
    Who gives the kids a bath?
    Who puts the kids to bed?

    9/10 times it’s mom; because dad earns a pay check and thinks that’s enough. So why would a judge give you custody for child care if you’re not providing child care? Judges just keep the status quo you set up. Mom continues to raise the kids and you continue to be minimally involved and pay the bills. If you can say me to 1/2 those question or split equally you’re not providing child care.

    First off, you use way too many stereotypes in your comment. This isn’t the 1950’s anymore where the husband goes to work while the wife stays at home and watches the kids. I can answer “me and my son’s mom” to all those questions but according to you I’m not providing child care? Maybe you should get off your fat lazy ass and try working 40-50 hours per week and coming home and taking care of the kids only to have someone tell you that you’re not “providing child care”. You have no idea what the hell you’re talking about. If you don’t think earning money to take care of your family while also taking care of your kids when you get home is enough then you have no idea how the real world works. Youprobably sit at home all day long while some nanny takes care of your kids and then when your husband gets home you complain about how hard your day was. Only to watch him make dinner, gets the kids in the tub and put them to bed. You probably brag to your 2 friends about how much time and energy you spend doing everything while it’s really your husband that’s killing himsef taking care of everything

  27. And on top of that, nowadays, the judge typically doesn’t even “ask” any of that stuff. You can visit the actual new jersey government website and in the section dealing with custody, before ANYTHING else is asked or established, they let you know that the default decision is custody gets awarded to the mother. The father bares the burden of proving that the mother is a useless, gold-digging junkie while the mother has to do nothing but show up.

  28. Women are nuts. If I won the lottery for 100 million dollars, my wife would complain that it wasn’t 200.

  29. Hey oneimontis
    No..
    Families are “separated” at the border because the parents are ILLEGALLY entering and using their kids as an human passports to get in. NOT because a “judge” decides they are “guilty”
    They. ARE guilty. Of illegal immigration.

  30. InoffensiveAccountName says:

    July 1, 2018 at 3:05 pm

    No reason at all for a young man to get married in this day and age. Antiquated tradition.
    —————–
    Amen! Divorce rate is 50/50 anyways!

  31. shes using the kids against him.. as a father myself, there is nothing more infuriating.

  32. He needs professional Help, why would an EX want to interfere with hundreds of thousands of support money for her and the kids?

    I’d say that women are very spiteful and often react w/o thinking about how much better the situation would be for the kids if the husband is gainfully employed by a football team. Saying that I can never condone domestic violence, but some woman think that getting their name in the media will inherently turn into a big pay day. In these situations, though, you wanna keep everything discrete because the less people know the more chance you have at getting paid. Now, you basically took away his chances for more income even if he wasn’t getting the top dollars in the NFL, possibly hurting the future of any children involved(Is there). I hope she thought it through is all I’m saying. If there’s children involved it’s about more than just you. Don’t get the man fired, even if he was a middling player at best.

  33. After reading through all of the comments I guess I’m definitely in the minority and one of the lucky ones. I’ve been married 22 years and we have never been stronger. It hasn’t always been butterflies and rose petals but we got through everything together. We have raised 2 sons and I couldn’t have dreamed of doing it with anyone else. I’m going to count my blessings because I am very fortunate.

  34. One of the most basic things we can do is let the men in our lives know it’s not okay to mistreat a woman.

    You do what you do and you pay for your sins and there’s no such thing as what might have been

    We’re parents first, and once you have kids, everybody knows that you have priority lists. Number one is your family and everything else just kind of finds its place

    Loving a man shouldn’t have to be this rough

    Yes, love is what binds a marriage together. We all know that. Married love means deciding every day that your relationship takes precedence over your pride and your ego, which at times requires some tough sacrifices. After all, it’s “until death do you part.” For a marriage to bring you joy, your spouse needs to be your best friend, too.

    ~Tim McGraw

    The problem today is no one tries in a marriage. They bail. No one takes ANY personal responsibility- always blaming the other. There are a lot of posts bashing woman but are you completely perfect and were you in your relationship? There is never an excuse to beat up a woman, ever. So just bc he states he did nothing wrong, doesn’t mean that’s true since that’s not true for ANYONE. And let me ask, did you feel and treat your wife the way Tim talks about his love for Faith…after 17 yrs of marriage? Men blame women and women blame men. The ONLY time it’s one persons fault is if they are abusive. Every other time it takes two and maybe some people need to examine who they are if they don’t agree with that.

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