Gisele Bundchen admits she would like Tom Brady to be “more present”

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Buccaneers quarterback Tom Brady has said plenty of things about his overall circumstances in recent weeks, even if he ultimately hasn’t actually said very much at all. His wife, Gisele Bundchen, has added some thoughts on the current state of her husband’s career in a new interview with Elle.

She repeated past public comments regarding her obvious interest in Brady’s health and well being.

“Obviously, I have my concerns — this is a very violent sport, and I have my children and I would like him to be more present,” she said. “I have definitely had those conversations with him over and over again. But ultimately, I feel that everybody has to make a decision that works for [them]. He needs to follow his joy, too.”

The interview happened “weeks” before Brady’s mysterious 11-day hiatus from training camp. She declined to comment on reports of marital strife when Elle followed up with her this month.

Five years ago, she made waves with comments to Charlie Rose regarding Tom’s head trauma.

“I just have to say, as a wife, I’m a little bit — as you know, it’s not the most — let’s say [it’s] an aggressive sport,” she said in May 2017. “Football, like he had a concussion last year. I mean, he has concussions, pretty much, I mean, we don’t talk about [it] but he does have concussions. I don’t think it’s a healthy thing for your body to go through like — you know, to that kind of aggression all the time. That cannot be healthy for you, right? I mean I plan on having him be healthy and do a lot of fun things when we’re like 100, I hope.”

In the Elle interview, she agreed with the notion that her depiction as being “desperate” for Brady to retire is “sexist.” But there’s nothing “sexist” about acknowledging the apparent reality that she wants him to “be more present,” and to stop putting himself in harm’s way with guys who are literally half his age and younger. As she supposedly told him after Super Bowl LV, what more does he have to prove?

Brady has stretched the rubber band farther than any elite athlete ever has. He’s taken the needle on the gas tank well past E, and he has kept going. She has every right to want him to act his age and move on to business endeavors that won’t continue to accumulate wear and tear on his body and brain. Although it’s his life and his decision, it impacts her and the rest of the family. And it’s fair to ask him to strike a better balance between risk and reward — between selflessness and selfishness — when deciding to keep playing at a time when he doesn’t need the money, the trophies, or the accolades.

Everything about the current state of Brady’s career is unprecedented. There’s no manual to read, no one to seek out for advice. It’s unprecedented for everyone, on the inside and the outside.

The greatness that carried Brady this far is what pushes him to keep going. His biggest challenge could be finding a way to keep things going while honoring his bigger priorities and responsibilities.

75 responses to “Gisele Bundchen admits she would like Tom Brady to be “more present”

  1. If Gisele Bundchen wanted me to spend more time at home with her, I’d at least hear her out.

  2. I feel just like Giselle does. I used to love Brady, but now I am totally sick of him and his self indulgent narcissism. Tom doesn’t want to stop playing football because when he is playing everything is about him. His diet, his sleeping, his training, his practices and games. When he stops playing it’s going to be more of a democracy in the Brady household, and the truth is, he’s been a tyrant.

  3. You know when he retires their marriage is prolly toast.If you need to force someone to spend time with you it aint gonna work .

  4. Most guys retire when they are no longer playing at a high level. Tom Brady led the NFL in passing yards last year. He is still easily a top 5 QB in the league. I understand all the family stuff and injury concerns of course but it’s hard to retire when you are still one of the best players in the game.

  5. Very happy Tom is dong what he wants. No need to give in to his selfish wife. Keep doing what you love Tom. Alpha male.

  6. A happy wife makes for a happy life. Brady has reached his goal of playing until 45. I hope he decides this is his final year so that his wife is happy and my team has a better chance of winning the Super Bowl.

  7. We all knew this is why he was missing, she’s made it very very clear over the lat few years that she wants him home. And it’s not really our business so I don’t know why she keeps telling us. I mean if it’s to win public opinion or something that won’t work; women and fashion people that are fans of hers might side with it but us football fan, Tom is great to watch (now that he left NE).

  8. I think what set her off was the fact that he unretired. If he hadn’t retired and just promised her this would be his last year, there probably wouldn’t be this huge marital stress right now.

  9. “And it’s fair to ask him to strike a better balance between risk and reward — between selflessness and selfishness — when deciding to keep playing at a time when he doesn’t need the money, the trophies, or the accolades.”

    This hits the bottom line on the nose. It absolutely is a fair question but one to which we will never get an answer. For me personally, I would ask him where exactly does the “selflessness” come in? To whom? Again, just me, but all I see is the “selfishness.”

  10. In his pursuit of greatness, Brady is also acting selfishly. Selfish because at the end of the day, when weighing up the merits of a man’s life, to say that he was a great father and a great husband carries more weight than saying he was a great football player.

  11. “Tom, could you take the kids to their soccer g—“
    “Cincinnati.”
    “Tom, I need you to help more of—“
    “Cincinnati.”

  12. What a weird world we live in when people call a woman SEXTIST who (financially set for several lifetimes) wants the man she loves (also set financially for several lifetimes) to retire because she is rightfully worried about his brain damage.
    What a time to be alive.

  13. Imagine following your dreams and you end up being one of one, you still love what you do. It is your passion. And yet for years and years your wife has tried to get you to quit. I would highly resent her. She knew the risks when she got involved, and to occasionally do these interviews as a way to publicly nudge him or lean on him…I’m not even married to her and I wish she’d GO AWAYYYYY

  14. He has the money, he has the fantastic wife, he has 6 Super bowl rings but for some folks it is the process rather than the end destination. I just hope that when he retires of his own choice he is in pretty healthy form.

    PS: I am not a Bucs or Pats fan.

  15. She said she wants her husband to be “more present”…..LOL…so goes the saying from every single wife in the world!

  16. “What else does he have to prove?” she said. Maybe he really loves playing football and will regret retiring before he actually feels “done”.

  17. If I had more money than I could ever spend, felt healthy enough to live to a ripe old age, beautiful children growing up, and a eye-piece like that waiting for me at home that actually wanted me to be there…would I choose football over that? Not a chance. It’s his selfish ego. It’s just a game. His luck will now start changing.

  18. “I have my children”

    Wow. The other part is kinda whatever, but she calls their kids “hers” and not “their” children… she definitely wanted to say more.

  19. Ronnie Coleman is the G.O.A.T. of bodybuilding. After herniating a disc in his back in ‘96 when he was 32 years old, he continued to train and compete for over ten years. Since then he’s herniated almost every disc in his back and neck and now gets around on crutches and is on pain management. And he still trains every day. Concussions are silent killers that have a latency period before they surface and cause serious problems. I certainly understand Giselle’s feelings. Brady and Coleman know the risks of their professions, but find it impossible to let go. They can’t help themselves.

  20. Brady has no bigger priority or responsibility than his greatness.

    It’s clear from his behavior and I say that without judgment.

    A lot of the “greatest” people in history became so by giving everything to their chosen cause with few boundaries or balance. That’s not fun for the people that love them, but that’s often what it takes to be great.

  21. Regardless of this couple’s fame and fortune it is no different than many families with kids across the U.S. Work becomes the priority, to the detriment of the family. The enormous amount of pressure on Brady has to weigh on him during his family time.

    The adage about playing professional football continues: any player is exactly one play away from retirement or permanent injury. Being a mere mortal, I can’t conceive of why a guy who is set financially for life, has a supermodel wife and a bright future after football would hang around with a bunch of smelly guys in jock straps?

  22. Awe I bet all the wives with children wish their working husbands were more present. I get that money doesn’t buy happiness, but remember it helps. And don’t give me when is enough – enough. That just means you’ve never done anything in your life you really love.

  23. “Obviously, I have my concerns — this is a very violent sport, and I have my children and I would like him to be more present,” she said. “I have definitely had those conversations with him over and over again. But ultimately, I feel that everybody has to make a decision that works for [them]. He needs to follow his joy, too.”

    LOL, … Every man versed in “woman” knows how to read between those lines.

  24. Unless he’s holding on long enough to beat Eli Manning Jr in a Super Bowl, I actually agree. And despite the shady circumstances behind the Miami deal, if it were to stay truly partial ownership deal, it could have been the the perfect balance between his family and football life.

  25. Why is it always “Happy Wife, Happy Life”? Why is there never any mention of Happy Husband?

  26. She’s being played as the villain even though all she wants is her husband to return home in one piece every day.

  27. Brady has no bigger priority or responsibility than his greatness.
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    I hope he uses that line in divorce court.

  28. IDK but maybe #12 is addicted to fame. He’ll be playing for the Dresden Monarchs in 10 years.

  29. secondgenameriacan says:
    September 14, 2022 at 9:31 am
    Why is it always “Happy Wife, Happy Life”? Why is there never any mention of Happy Husband?
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    You apparently have never been married. Otherwise you would understand.

  30. So many on here are saying Brady is selfish yet want him to retire because of their selfish reasons. Makes sense.

  31. Brady could play ball till he’s 50 if the NFL created a rule defenses can’t touch him. He can still drop dimes on WR’s,… but the issue is at 45 the body can’t take the hits like at 25. That’s got to be the crux of his decision at the end of the year. He got knocked around pretty good Sunday night.

  32. No one should live their life based on the whims and caprices of of others. If Tom Brady had listened to the maddening crowd, probably, he would have called it quits some ten years or more ago.
    It’s all outside noise.
    TB 12 is a living example of the immense powers and capabilities of the human mind.

  33. Normal life stuff. You could say this about Joe Blow down the road putting in a 14 hour day with a wife who wants him to be more “present”. Middle aged with kids and a wife and long work days is universally known stress.

    Once thing I noticed on Sunday is Tom’s zip on the ball is there just like it was 15 years ago. He is still one a of a handful of players who can play QB at an elite level. When everyone is calling you the GOAT, it is pretty hard to leave that to just be called DAD.

  34. As much as Gisele is a pain in the ass and I’m not a big fan, she’s right on this one. Since Brady left N.E., he’s become a much different person and I think he realizes that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. However, its only with maturity that you can understand that. TB was great in the first year as everything was new and rosy. He felt like he was out of prison etc. .

    However, he also realized that in year two. This isn’t N.E. and Bruce Arians is a baffoon. He could never keep the team focused and on track for multiple championships. And, that is where the discipline and coaching comes in from N.E. He’s baptized with that mind set.

    But, he did win another S.B. . Now he’s just playing because his ego won’t let him stop. When you decide to have children, you give up the right to do what you want, when you want. The children and family become priority and all else is secondary, which is where I agree with Gisele.

    He does not need anymore money to set up his family and children. There is no more to accomplish in the NFL. He’s playing until 45 to promote his TB 12 business and to satisfy his ego. Well, good for you, but you have to be around in 20 years to accomplish those goals too.

    As an enormous Pats fan, he’s immortalized in N.E., and rightfully so. But, his last 3yrs have been quite different and I no longer root for him in any capacity as he’s become just another corporate sell out.

    Gisele is also correct about the hits. He’s one good hit away from being either crippled, or neurologically damaged. Move on Tom. Someday you’ll realize family is the only thing that matters.

  35. Most guys retire when they are no longer playing at a high level. Tom Brady led the NFL in passing yards last year. He is still easily a top 5 QB in the league. I understand all the family stuff and injury concerns of course but it’s hard to retire when you are still one of the best players in the game.

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    ALL guys retire when they are either hurt or there is something more important than football (irrespective of the level they are playing).

    Its pretty clear second is not true for Thomas

  36. It’s no wonder that Tom has a hard time retiring.
    He has to look forward to spending the rest of his life with this spoiled, entitled, elitist woman. He comes home from work every single night. He’s not on the other side of the world.
    He’s not risking his life.
    Now she’s going public with their personal business.
    Find yourself a 25 year old, Tom.

  37. BonnieReadsAndWrites says:
    September 14, 2022 at 4:46 am
    Maybe the media should stay out of their marriage.

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    Pretty clear its not media but Gisele who wants the world to know. They are public figures so if media should keep out of their marriage, they should retire

  38. Gisele gave up modeling at the height of her career to focus on her family, yet Brady refuses to do the same. How selfish of Brady.

  39. It will be interesting to see what Brady does next when he can no longer play the sport he loves and is addicted to.

  40. I think the NFL is constantly in a state of inflation. For example, people who don’t remember the first ten years of Manning’s career likely have no grasp of how good he was. He was a stat monster but it doesn’t look that way by today’s standards. So, I think every year that Brady continues to play at this elite level makes it exponentially harder for his legacy to be surpassed. Or to put it another way, if there was another guy with 1500 more career yards, 8 more career wins, the same number of SB appearances and wins, you can bet everyone would understand Brady continuing to play. Just as someone will be motivated to surpass Brady someday. So I get the pressure to quit, but I don’t blame him for playing until he’s not elite anymore. YOLO.

  41. Folks tend to gloss over the fact that she also has a pretty significant career that she’s sacrificed so he could play football. It’s a cliche, but every marriage is a two way street, and this one seems to be heading predominately one way.

  42. It will be interesting to see what Brady does next when he can no longer play the sport he loves and is addicted to.
    ____________
    They’re paying him a fortune to sit in a chair in a studio and smile while his co-hosts fawn all over him.

  43. I gotta say that I agree with her…

    How much is enough, Tommy Boy? And at what (health) cost in the long run?

  44. She knew football is Brady’s first love. She should have married Leonardo de Caprio. They would understand each other better being in the entertainment industry, She was and can still do her job. Brady doesn’t work all year. She makes it sound like Brady totally neglect the family. And it should be “our” children not “my” children.Gisele seems like she still want to compete with the younger models. Has it occurred to her that she’s still famous because of Brady’s long, successful career? Where are her contemporary models or other model icons? Older and out of the news. She could have been like them.And, had she married Leo she would have been replaced by younger models.

  45. He’s home five straight months out of the year! Who has that much time with the family? If he retires she will tell him to get off the couch and get a job.

  46. Not to worry. He is playing The Saints this weekend. They will send him home to Gisele and the kids again, after he has a tantrum and destroys the computer tablet again.

  47. I’ve always thought that TB and BB have personality disorders. Those conditions make them both obsessed with preparation, hard work, and greatness. The combination produced 20 years of unparalleled success in NFL football. The obsession was always a positive for Tom. Now he can’t let it go, even though there is nothing left to accomplish. His obsession is still there, though it is no longer a positive in his life. I predict he will be standing there at the end waiting for the adulation he feels he has earned and no one will care. And he won’t understand why.

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